Or bi-weekly, monthly, yearly.
Does anyone think this would be a healthy thing? Sometimes I feel as though I have residual stuff that ends up becoming a fight. I’ve wondered about having an hour “session” now and then to put stuff on the table with a “leave your thin skin at the door” mentality as a better way to address day-to-day peeves and keep small things from exploding.
Thoughts?
Well, my husband and I only get to actually see each other about 20 hours every week – not counting the time we’re asleep. So, in our case, communication is a big deal.
Maybe it’s because of our personalities and the nature of our relationship, but just about every day we end up talking about what’s pissing us off, whether it’s each other, the world in general, etc.
We’ve always been the kind to make a joke out of everything, and there’s nothing I would hesitate to bring up with him.
My current biggest peeves with hubby include pretty mundane stuff – he likes to gulp a big glass of water or juice in bed making horrbile ::gulp gulp:: sounds, and he will forget to wear deodorant (how does he not smell that?!?).
I pretty much tell him straight to his face about his revolting habits, and he tries to accommodate me.
Of course, this works both directions, so I get to hear about my shortcomings as well :
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While these are all relatively mundane and trivial peeves, we also bitch about bigger issues – money, life, etc. but we always keep the anger or frustration focused on the situation or the issue, and not at each other.
I think that regular bitch sessions are a must in any healthy relationships. The key is to find a way to do it constructively.
When my husband decided to push us deeper into debt to continue his studies (and subsequently keep him away from home for 16 hours a day) I was pissed that we’d have to cut back on a lot of things and that I wouldn’t see him but 45 mins. after work each day, but we laugh about it. I told him to take a picture for me that I could put on my computer so that I wouldn’t forget what he looked like. ::