For all you so-called m/f straighties out there, when were you tempted? How close did it come? Who with? College/High School? At work? At the car wash? :eek:
Yeah, I guess.
When I was a teenager, my peer group was pretty gay – and often vocal about their disdain for “breeders.” (“Oh, except for you, Larry.”) So I had a certain amount of socialized inadequacy and guilt about my sexuality. I developed something of a crush on one friend, which I now realize was more of a hero-worship thing than anything romantic or sexual.
In my twenties, I found myself in a surprisingly high number of triangular relationships with bi guys and women. (None of which ever ended well – funny that.) My comfort level with the incidental touching that that involved was never high, and occasional requests for direct sex were met with embarrasment and a lot of guilty feelings over not being able to reciprocate.
I guess the closest that I ever got was with one bi guy that I worked with. We were doing a night-time installation in a building that had previously been bank, and were taking a break, using the vault as an isolation chamber. (No lock on the massive door.) It was very dark and quiet in there, and there was a bit o’ touching going on. No kissing or anything, and once fingers found their way into my pants, the flight response kicked in. I think that was the moment I knew that I was exclusively straight. We later fell out when I kept sleeping with his wife after she decided that she wasn’t comfortable with being with both of us at once anymore. (TMI?)
One of my favourite memories is the look on my mum’s face one time when she was driving me back to the house I shared with my girlfriend after a lunch visit. We were stopped at a red light, and a leather-clad, army-boots-and-skirt-wearing, eyepatch-sporting, shaven-head, enormous bear of a man was using the crosswalk in front of us. I jumped out of the car, shouted “Gerald!” and ran up to him and gave him a big hug. (Another hero.)
Anyway, I guess I’m pretty low on the Kinsey scale, but not a “1” by any means. 
As far as I know, I’ve never been tempted to get invovled with another man or experiment.
Makes me bit of the odd man out in a way because my sister has a much large social circle then I do (I know 5 people total, while my sister has roughly 2 million assorted friends), and it seems like almost all of them are bisexual(including her, so she says), if not homosexual. Yeah, it’s a wierd thing to bring up.
At least, I think that’s what you were asking.
No for me. I posted in that “Male Sexual Rite of Passage” thread in IMHO about circle-jerks and things in high school. I participated in some of those things but those were contests and stunts. They had nothing to do with getting off with another person and it was roll-your-own. If a real gay guy had shown up, I don’t think that anyone would have taken it too well. That type of thing let me know that I am almost 100% straight. If there are 5 guys beating off to an ugly woman in a porno then I am going to be focused on the ugly woman because any woman trumps any man in my book.
I can’t even tell what males are attractive. Sure, I can tell which ones are fat and ugly, but, beyond that, other guys as sexual objects are completely foreign to me.
I worked in this hotel in New Orleans during college where the manager and most of the staff were gay. They manager was the king of sexual harrassment in a funny yet very creepy and determined way. He used to take me out on these expensive nights out after work. I thought that was great because I didn’t have much money. It would usually be me, maybe a friend if I brought one, and 10 gay guys or so. They would always hit on me and make comments. I was never tempted in the least. I just thought that they were an amuzing bunch with a lifestyle that I couldn’t totally relate too.
I found out that I am not scared of gay or bi-sexual activity in the least in an objective way. However, it does nothing for me and the thought of kissing a guy ooks me out big time.
The forum called “Cafe Society” is about arts and entertainment. While it can be argued that sex is sort of art and sort of entertainment, this thread clearly belongs in the IMHO forum and I’m moving it there.
No. Not that I didn’t have an open mind on the subject. I figure that if I had ever met a guy that turned my crank (so to speak) as much as even the most borderline, beer goggles, any port in a storm woman; I would have considered it. 40 years in, I have yet to meet that special guy.
I’ve had one experience with another woman, who is bisexual. And while she did a great job at what she did, I didn’t do anything in return. Don’t feel too sorry for her, her husband was there to take care of her.
To be honest, I have NO attraction to the female genitalia. I don’t think they’re nice to look at, even normal, healthy vaginal odors turn me off, and I definitely don’t want to taste it. Of course, my own is okay, but others’… ew. I would make a horrible lesbian.
I agree with trublmakr - I can say that while I may find a woman attractive I draw the line at anything sexual. I just don’t think I could perform sexually with a woman, it kind of yucks me out.
I went through a period in my late teens and early twenties when my circle of friends was predominantly bi or gay. Although I will admit my life may have been a lot more interesting at that time if I had experimented, I never met the “right” girl.
Nope but I kinda wish the wife was.
Never.
For 16 years I was best friends with a lesbian, and she was completely uncomfortable in straight bars so I spent a great deal of my 20s in gay bars. The first year was accompanied by a lot of introspection and soul-searching, but I couldn’t escape the fact that I’m about as straight as straight folks get – I was never tempted to so much as kiss another woman, despite being hit on by several (and hot ones, too … somehow I attract better-looking women than I do men!). A lot of gay people I met while partying couldn’t believe that I spent so much time in the bars/clubs without being even a little bi-curious, but what can I say. I acknowledge and appreciate attractive women, and when watching porn a nice set of tits can be a good thing, but there’s just no interest in anything physical happening with anyone who doesn’t have a penis (um, the one he was born with :D).
Add me to the never camp. If’n I was going to find a woman sexually attractive (rather than merely pretty), it probably would have been during college - I lived in an all girls dorm for four years, so I’ve been around enough scantily clad girls to know they do nothing for me. On the other hand, neither do most guys…
Never.
I can tell a handsome guy from an average one, but they are just other guys; they don’t do anything for me at all. I can’t find anything sexy about another man, especially his genitals. The idea of them touching me is just, well, repulsive.
Sigh, how sad if so. 
A media fiction?
Not unless Hollywood screenwriters write about 20% of the personal ads in free weeklies.
I have no conceptual objections to gayness; in text it can be quite entertaining and on occasion I’ll see a guy, blink a couple times, and think “Whoa.” Sodomy strikes me as rather appealing on both ends of the equation. If a guy comes along who excites me as much as the girls I’ve dated, sure, I think I’ll be more than happy to mess around.
On the other hand, I’m one of those waify Asian boys and apparently a gaydar-jammer, so I sometimes have little shortage of come-ons from guys when I go out wandering. From my experience, I’m surprised that humanity has survived as long as it has. Come now; I’m incompetent at this whole courtship thing, but many of these guys are actively offensive. I could go on for pages about them. But they don’t seem self-conscious about it, and they deliver the whole mess with the confidence that usually comes from a fair degree of success. So while the actual mechanics of it are fine, I get the feeling that there’s this whole culture attached to it that I want absolutely no part of.
Men. Yccch. I can hardly stand to look at most of them. I mostly think of them as callow nuisances standing between me and any potential soulmate.
Never been tempted, or even curious. My desire is for females and that’s that.
Why does this thread have ads about student jobs at UPS and State Farm? Is there something we don’t know?
Nope, never. Not on moral grounds, purely on aesthetic ones: guys are all gristly and lumpy and knobbly and hairy and veiny, whereas women are soft and smooth and curvy and…mmm, women. I’m continually amazed that women want to sleep with us as much as they do, but then we probably looks different from their perspective.
Apart from one bizarre dream some years ago involving me and, literally, the girl next door, there’s never been any time I’ve felt any attraction to women. And the dream was especially bizarre because, apart from not having seen that particular girl for probably 20 year by the time I had the dream, she and I were never particularly close as friends. I hadn’t heard anything about her or her family for years, yet for some reason, my sleeping mind dredged her up and tossed her in bed with me. Dare I say again: bizarre.
So, no, never.