I just wanted to pop my head in and let you know that I’m a parent of a BP teenager and I understand what its like to live with a BP person.
Things are not always easy, and tend to be stressful. I know when she was first diagnosed, we all walked around on eggshells with her. (she is also suicidal and a self mutilator) After the first year, we realized that living in fear of what may or may not happen was not the way we wanted to live and we started with the tough love and calling of her bluffs. Eventually she has managed to calm herself and not use or abuse the fact, that even tho we don’t show it, we still live in a very real fear, that one day to prove a point, she’ll get it right.
It’s taken 2 years and 2 trips to inpatient care, but we finally have her on some meds that work for her. The ups are still there, and so are the downs, but the meds help her on her daily functions. Everynow and then as she cycles, we have these major blow outs, but for the most part, she is a regular teenager with attitude.
I don’t know what it will be like for her as an adult. We are hoping that having caught the disease early enough, and getting it under control now, things will be easier. I know its hard for me to sleep at night sometimes, not knowing what I will find the next morning when I take her her meds, but living in that fear is not productive to her or help her stay healthy.
As far on how to deal with your Husband , his meds, and your feelings as of now. All I can say is to just love him as much as you did before. Don’t feel like you have to walk on eggshells with him at all. I know with anyone, after you show them that their emotional outbursts and the things that are said or done (threats or otherwise) no longer affect you, they will realize it doesn’t work, and eventually stop.
scott evil I just want to literally wrap my arms around you and just hug you. I feel so bad that your SO is treating you like your disease is your fault (just my take on it) and refuses to walk thru this with you.
I hope that one day he sees whats he’s really doing to you, and changes.
I vote that we start our own support group!! I have yet to find a decent one myself, so I’m down!!