Our daughter is turning four in a few weeks and we’re going to have a small-ish party for her at our place. We are working on an invite list and it’s pretty easy so far, as she’s only four so it’s just children of our friends and some kids that she used to play with at her old daycare, and who she still sees and plays with from time to time.
Small quandary that we couldn’t decide on, so we thought we’d ask for some opinions…
She’s in a preschool now and her class is fairly small, and the other kids are all roughly her same age. We really do not want to invite all of the kids in her class as we don’t really know the parents and some of the kids, frankly, are terrors. However, there is one girl in the class that our daughter is pretty close to and her parents are people we like and would like to get to know better. We would like to invite this little girl to the party.
So the old rule of kids parties is, you can’t invite just one kid in a class - you have to invite all of the kids, or none of them. But that really seems like more of an “older kids in grade school” kind of rule. As far as I know, three and four year olds in preschool aren’t running around gossiping about the party they didn’t get an invite to. But obviously, if the parents know each other - they might talk and it could cause hurt feelings possibly.
Inviting all of the kids just isn’t an option. But what would you do in this situation? Would you invite just the one kid solo, or not at all. Would you express to her parents that they were the only ones invited and ask for their discretion? For what it’s worth, I don’t believe they really talk to any other parents except us (our drop-off and pick-up times mostly coincide).
We’re leaning towards inviting her but wanted to see what others thought about the situation in case we were heading in the wrong direction here.