I would say I’m bisexual. Asked to elaborate, I’d have to admit I’m mostly straight. I’m female, and never had a girlfriend, married to a man now. But I sure don’t feel straight.
I just say I’m bisexual, and if someone wants to know more, I just tell them I date whoever I’m attracted to, regardless of their gender.
Same here. I was married to a man, He died, and now I am dating a wonderful woman.
It would make a difference to me, because I think labels are useful only in how they describe present behavior, not by defining anything inherent (especially as mutable as my personal sexual orientation). So if my behavior was different, I’d use a different label.
I use peel-off labels, not permanent ones. 
Gay man here - I don’t think the term queer really has much use now and have never used it in reference to myself.
I quite like the notion of saying “I date whoever I’m attracted to, regardless of gender” except for me there’s only one gender that has ever been involved so it seems a bit redundant.
I hate labels and try to avoid them. When pressed and when I find it necessary to briefly refer to my sexuality, I say “bisexual”, but I don’t like it.
There’s a humoristic song in Spanish which uses the term “stereosexual” (it’s by Mecano, if anybody’s interested).
Married to a man for 15 years now, three kids, and nothing about that changes my bisexuality. That’s how I identify, if anyone cares in the first place. People tend to assume I’m straight because of the “married for over a decade with kids” thing but if for some reason they ask, I tell 'em “bi.” Or if they’re rude, “bi-bi.”
Heteroflexible.
I don’t like the term queer. Never have, never will.
Firmly male-oriented, but I can be quite attracted to certain types of women. Not turned on, just attracted to.
Incidentally, I think there’s a real difference between bi and “willing to get it on with my non-preferred gender under the right circumstances.”
I also think the Kinsey sliding scale is bogus, unless it can include asexuality. People don’t just slide between gay and straight. I know when I start sliding away from homosexuality, I’m not sliding towards heterosexuality in any way. I’m headed more towards asexuality.
I love that term. Can’t apply it to myself since there is no flexibility in my homoness, but I still really like that word.
I’ve always thought of asexuality as the end of a spectrum also bounded with “horndog who’ll fuck the knothole of a tree”. In my brain there are two different axis - one for who you like to have sex with and the other for how much. So if you’re a man rating, say, an 8 on the homo/hetero axis and a 9 on the asexual/horndog axis, you might stoop to having sex with Ann Coulter, but not Zack Braff (but perhaps Johnny Depp, if you’ve both been drinking).
If people ask, I’m bisexual, with a partially stronger attraction to men (I’d say 75% - 25%).
Two things bug me though:
- the connotations that go with the word. Here it’s now seen as “acceptable” to be gay as opposed to straight, but even on one of the most liberal campuses you can imagine, “bisexual” draws all sorts of snide comments. It varies from “oh, you’re saying that to get guy’s attention” to “yeah, lesbo in denial!” to “which means you’re a slut, right?”. Another common adage is “All the bi girls end up with men, and so do the bi men!”. No, dammit!
-also, the word seems to denote there only being two genders people can identify with, and that bisexuals are only interested in those two. No, I’d date pretty much anyone regardless of orientation/identification (bring on the lesbian-identified men!), as long as they’re an interesting, intellectual, [blah blah blah] person.
But pansexual or variants thereof just seems contrived.
To end in the words of Margaret Cho: “I was thinking, “Am I gaaaay? Am I straaaaight?” And then I realized: I’m just slutty. Where’s my parade?”
I generally go for ‘not straight’. It cuts out the first assumption most people make, and I really don’t want to go further into it in the vast majority of conversations. If people call me bisexual, though, I shrug. It’s not too far off.
Call me someone else who has fairly little use for rigid labels.
Slight hijack here, but I just wanted to say that it really, really fucking pisses me off when people have this attitude. I’m not bisexual, but I’d imagine that in some ways it’s more difficult than being out-and-out gay because you have to hear stupid, ill-informed, asinine shit like this from both sides. Unfortunately, I’ve known more than a couple of lesbians who say crap like this to my bi friends. I am no longer friends with anyone who expresses this attitude.
I personally like queer - it’s all-inclusive and less of a mouthful than LGBT.
Bingo. A friend of mine runs discussion groups about sexuality and so on in the residences on campus, and part of the exercise involves having people shout out connotations to words. “hetero” brings shouts of nuclear family, normal, and the like, “homo” stuff like Oscar Wilde and flamboyant, and “bi” - slutty. Every damn time. And my university is known for being liberal!
Thanks for demonstrating there are still liberal-minded people out there 
Ah, the almighty cock syndrome.
TCK, I swear to pete, if anyone ever said that about me within earshot, I would drop what I was doing, put on my very best Sweet Southern BelleTM voice turned up to 11, and declare, “OH MY! Bless your heart! You are SO IGNORANT!!”
And then not engage in anymore conversation with them.
Seriously, the very idea of this kind of thinking gets under my skin as much as the idea that there’s something wrong with being anything other than completely hetero. It’s one of the few attitudes that reduces me to raging gibberish in nothing flat. I hate that feeling.
“I’m a gay man trapped in a woman’s body.”
I wish I could say I made that up, but I didn’t, I read it somewhere. But I think it describes me quite well.
Snerk. I am so appropriating that line for personal use.