Assuming you choose to label yourself. Bisexual? Queer? Mostly-straight? Mostly-gay? Just one or the other? I ask because I vacillate between the first three and wonder if anyone else has the same issue.
If I get asked for a label, I stick with queer - mostly because it describes me well generally, and gives a fairly accurate impression of my sexuality. That, and I like using an ambiguous word, because I’m an ambiguous person.
I generally claim I’m “80% straight” or “80% hetero”. The number wasn’t rigorously researched or anything, but it feels about right. I’ve been attracted to and slept with far more men than women, and I live a fairly boring straight “lifestyle” as wife (to a man) and mother (to children with one male and one female parent), but I’d feel I was dishonoring the few women who I’ve been intimate with if I claimed to be straight with no wiggle room.
I don’t think of myself in those categories or labels, as a rule. Someone here got annoyed with me over that once.
These days, I’d consider using “queer”, but there’s a lot of old baggage with that word for me. I like the concept, though. And the word fits in more ways than one. If I were going to make a habit of using a label, I’d probably try that first.
Otherwise, I’d probably say bi, if pushed to pick one. My spot on the Kinsey-scale is highly variable, so a “mostly” one or the other would only be true sometimes.
I generally don’t use a label. I’m me, I’m attracted to whom I’m attracted to. Bisexual works fine, if I feel the need for one. I don’t talk about my sexuality much, not out of shame or self loathing, I just assume people don’t care, as I don’t really care about their sex lives.
I was never really accepted by the GSA when in college because I was bisexual. I was lying to myself and I should just accept that I’m a lesbian or I’m just faking it for attention. That’s probably where my dislike of labels comes from.
Either bisexual, or just sexual.
Bisexual, or for idiots who don’t get it, that girl who really truly doesn’t want to do you or your hag of a wife. I sometimes refer to myself as queer, though apparently that’s a horrible thing.
“Not heterosexual.”
It’s the most concise way to define it, and I personally can’t get myself past the irony of specifically labeling myself with the ways I don’t fit other labels (androgynous, pansexual[ish]).
You’d never guess it from my username, but my label of choice is “freak.” Unless I’m talking to some really close-minded people. Then it’s “scary.”
Seeing as i’m now permanently off the open market, ‘straight’ works for me. I did consider myself bi (tending straight) before I was married, but in all honesty I’ve never dated a girl.
“Mostly straight” works for me. I’ve called myself bi, but not’s not quite right. I am not attracted to women for relationships. I can’t see myself dating a woman. But I have been intimate with women and enjoyed the sexual experience very much. I’m ashamed to admit that I’m only interested in women for sex. I don’t like the way that sounds, but it’s true.
Many of the the bi guys I know express a similar sentiment, but in regards to men.
Theoretically bi.
<out-and-out lesbian here>
Would it make a difference if you settled down permanently with someone of the same gender? Would you use a different label then? Just curious (no judgements attached).
Including the OP. If the right guy came along, I’d consider it but I tend to prefer the company of women in almost all circumstances. And to answer your question, JustThinkin’, I doubt I’d label myself differently were I in a long term relationship with a man. If anything, I’d probably enjoy screwing with people by stating I’m mostly straight while holding hands with or having my arms around the waist of a man
I’m bi. When I’m asked “are you gay?” I respond with “I’m gay enough.”
Peoplesexual.
I could probably beget an heir if I absolutely had to in the way that most straight men could probably get it up for a guy if they absolutely had to (I’d link to cites but they require passwords and credit cards and then aren’t work safe), but overall I’d go with total Mo.
I’ve “kept” the same label while dating both guys and gals, personally. I tend to be less willing to “correct” people, though. I don’t practice open relationships, so if I’m dating someone I guess I am, for all intents and purposes, either gay or straight for that time being (not saying that my orientation shifts, but I think you understand what I mean). It’s the relationship’s label that is more strict. I was dating a bisexual guy once, and a girl we knew was trying to insist that it was a “bisexual relationship” and not a gay relationship. It was sort of confusing…where was the girl, again?
I’m another 80/20 bisexual. The problem is figuring out how that 80/20 split works. If it comes to pure physical attraction, I’m 80% straight. If it comes to emotional attraction, I’m 80% gay. It’s pretty rare that a passing hot guy will turn my head, but it’s equally rare that I ever meet a girl I’m interested in being more than just friends with. In other words, I tend to lust after women, and crush on men. I guess “queer” is the most apt label, on a couple of levels.