I think this is it. It’s happening.
We talked and realised that nobody is happy and that this isn’t going to get any better.
I’m terrified.
We don’t get along and have to many differences and this has made us both into horrible, grouchy, not happy people who are taking things out on each other and the children are not fareing well either.
He yells alot and I avoid being home. The children and I run and do as much as we can so we don’t give him anything to yell about, and when we are home I am a total bitch anymore or just don’t talk much.
The part that scares the crap out of me is actually moving out.
I have nothing and nowhere to go.
It’s his mothers house and when we moved in most of the household stuff that I didn’t get rid of became community property between MIL and I.
I will be starting over with four out of five children.
My mother lives in a three bedroom trailer with my brother staying there for the time being, and she has the habit of bleeding her children dry. If I have to go there I will but I am really dreading that.
I could get a place with my “daughter” and “grand-daughter”, but that will take some time to save up money. Again leaving me in the where will I stay until I can save?
I have outstanding gas/electric and phone from eight years ago when I was a single mother of two, so even if I get a place with her we won’t have lights and other such things.
I’m at a loss.
No furniture, no dishes, unpaid bills, out of time.
Doper prayers, thoughts, and mojo greatly appreciated.
Gosh, I don’t know what to say.
In some areas there are–I’m hesitant to use the word shelter, as that implies abuse–but places where women and their kids can go temporarily to get their shit together before moving on with their lives. If you can find something like that, it would give you a place to be until you pay off the outstanding utilities and save up for a place of your own.
You might also check and see what you’re eligible for, aid-wise. AFDC, WIC, subsidized housing, maybe. You never know till you ask. I know it’s not the ideal situation, but it might be enough to tide you over till you can get everything paid off and get a fresh start.
Good luck.
Ditto what Crazy Cat Lady said. Find out if there is a community service that helps out women who are starting over on their own. It’s a pain in the butt to go to Social Services (or whoever does things like Section 8 housing, etc.) but it would be worth it if you can get on your feet after a while.
I’ll send you all my wishes of good luck and positive thoughts/vibes, but I can’t put on a cheerleading outfit. It would be a horrific sight. 
Wow. Congrats on taking a big step towards a happier life. All my very best wishes.
Sending warm thoughts your way.
Good luck to you, Kricket.
I have a piece of advice (which you can take or leave) about the old utility bills. Chances are they’ve long ago written them off as bad debts, or sold the rights to your outstanding debt to a collection agency, which may well have done the same by now.
Call them up, find out what the story is (i.e. who you owe the money to) and see if they’ll take 20¢ on the dollar to discharge the debt. If it works, you’ll be free and clear of that old problem, and they’ll get something, which is more than they reckon they’ll get at this late date, which is why they might go for it.
But if you try to go this route, it’s best to do it before you need utilities in your name, when they would have you over a barrel and could well demand the whole caboodle.