Weight training takes time. This kid is being bullied daily.
Attacking a bully can easily backfire:
the bully beats the cr*p out of the victim, then says he was ‘just defending himself’
the rest of the bully’s gang join in
the bully claims he’s being bullied
I don’t know what you mean about how talking to the principal will turn out.
My School has an anti-bullying scheme drawn up in consultation with the pupils. It includes a bully court, where both sides meet under supervision, written schemes of behaviour for the bully and his family and a clear set of steps with school discipline including expulsion.
I have personally seen several cases go through this system and have full confidence in it.
Take it from a teacher - this is not the answer to bullying.
(Decades ago I was also bullied at School. When I hit back, six kids jumped me. I was nearly strangled to death.)
How likely do you think this kid is to approach the principal and go “can you make those mean boys stop touching my boobies?”
And sending Mom to do it? No way. Fate worse than death, having Mommy come fight your battles.
Yes, fighting back CAN backfire. That’s why you’ve got to know when to do it.
Stand up to a bully and they will stop. They will NOT be intimidated by a meeting with the principal or some kind of mock trial. They’re not afraid of getting suspended, but they will be afraid of someone they know will fight back. Bullies want victims who will be silent and take what they dish out.
I think if he ends up being good in sports then he will gain their respect because I have seen kids fatter than my cousin who don’t seemed to get teased. For an 11 year old he can throw a football pretty far, I don’t know if he had a chance to show that off but if he did I could see these bullies saying “ok well maybe he is cool, we won’t touch his boobs anymore.”
One suggestion from his dad was to accuse anyone of touching his boobs of being a “f^ggot”, personally I like the gaining respect through athletics idea better.
I had the condition just on the left side. If I put something in my shirt pocket it would cause an irritation. Then after I was 50, I joined a health club and started aerobics. The sweaty shirt not only caused an irritation but the duct (yeah there is one) got infected. A surgeon lanced it, but a couple of years later, I began having new problems. He asked if I’d ever noticed that side was larger and suggested surgery. So I had a mastectomy. Another male at church developed breast cancer and regretfully died a few years later, but for awhile we would kid each other about having breast surgery. During medical exams a nurse usually asks about past surgery. Whenever, I say I’ve had a mastectomy, they always write down vasectomy. :smack:
Yes, it takes courage and the knowledge that the School will support you.
Parents should certainly get involved. Both from the victim and the bully’s families.
And how does a bullied kid know this?
What are the guidelines?!
And your evidence for this is?
My School’s policy was written by pupils and staff in 1998. It is published in the School Diary, which is given to every pupil and their family (as well as to all members of staff.) All pupils are advised that they should alert bullying to any member of staff or the local priest or the local doctor or any School prefect (whoever they feel most comfortable with).
The School has notices reminding pupils how to get help, and we discuss bullying in class groups.
Strangely bullies do seem concerned when they and their parents meet with the Principal. We have expelled bullies (after warnings have been ignored).
Not all bullies require intimidation, some need counselling for their low self-esteem.
The required lesson is that we need to act as a community, not that violence solves problems.
The athletic idea is totally his idea I’m just willing to see if it will work . If it doesn’t I will suggest getting the school involved but I think it will work.
Well it’s good that you want to help your friend.
But you didn’t say whether the gang are bullying anyone else, nor how long your friends idea will take.
Seriously, do consider talking to a friendly teacher, or getting his family to ask about School bullying policy. It should mean that you get help and advice from an adult who can really make a difference.
Glee, I know you might like to hear this so here goes. The new vice principal of my cousin’s school said that a titty twister is not teasing or harassing, it is assault.
The next boy who twisted my cousin’s boob was suspended and now, I guess everybody else lost interest in his breasts.
We will never know if his plan would have worked.
. If it doesn’t I will suggest getting the school involved but I think it will work.