My wife got back from Taiwan. The cousin was able to meet with one of the doctors, and we received a copy of the patient chart, which they keep in English.
It’s not good. The lump is invasive, and about 10 cm in size. It has spread to both lungs and the lymph system and seems to be growing aggressively. I was mistaken when I first reported that it had spread to the ovaries. It hasn’t, but they removed them to stop the production of hormones.
Reading on line, it seems that it’s not likely to be curable. Her doctor says that mean survival for someone her age and in her condition is 3 years, but with quite a wide range from a couple of months to 10 years.
My wife is going in tomorrow for her check. She’s taken it understandably a bit rough, but is a real trouper.
Oh good Lord! This news sucks, and I’m sorry as hell to hear it.
The one good thing I can see in all of this is that your wife has a strong, supportive, loving husband to lean on.
I’ve been through some pretty rough stuff in my 24 years with my hubby, and cannot imagine how much harder it all would have been if he hadn’t been there to be my rock and my comfort.
My wife just got back from the doctor who said that the tiny lump in her left breast hasn’t changed from two years ago. It will go after the birth and then once breast feeding has finished.
We cry together, so I’m not sure how strong I am, but at least two out of three isn’t bad.
We’ve been really good about supporting each other. Sometimes one needs more support than another, and it’s mine turn to be there for her.
Thank you much. It’s been quite theraputic writing on the boards. Death and illness is still a very sensitive issue for us, but we’re certainly grown together.
Have her be cautious - pregnant is no time to remove a breast unless it can’t be helped, but breastfeeding masks changes and the hormones involved can accelerate some cancers. Breastfeeding is great, but not at the expense of letting something gone malignant grow. She should become best friends with her lump, so if it does change during this process steps can be taken asap.
Really really sorry TokyoPlayer. You don’t know me, but I’ve been reading these boards for a while, and, as I spent two years in Tokyo, you’re one of the posters I always read with interest. Sorry to hear your news.
My hubby and I both agree that if I ever develop a breast lump, he’s more likely to find it than I am!
I only pat them puppies down once a month, he does it, well, several times a week.
