I was on vacation last week, so I just watched the final episode last night.
I thought it was as if they’d painted themselves into a corner, and not only managed to get out, but do a triple-backflip and land with a perfect dismount, pointing at the corner as if that was the way it was supposed to look all along. I thought it was a near-perfect end to the series, not only tying up everything they needed to tie up, but managing in one hour to give the entire last season some meaning.
The Gaspode said it was impossible to sum up the last season, but now it is: it was about Buffy’s becoming a real person. She’s never been able to because of her responsibilities as the slayer. That’s the theme that’s been going on since the beginning of the series, but this season put a little twist on it: it wasn’t as simplistic as her being a normal girl who had this responsibility placed on her; it was how she’d begun to define herself. Being the leader was all she had. But with the past couple of episodes, starting from Spike’s speech to her when they spent the night together, she began to realize two things: One, that she had value beyond her Slayer power, and two, that she didn’t need to do this alone.
The very end, where she realizes that she’s “finished baking,” was just excellent on so many levels. The gang is still asking her what to do next, and she realizes not only that she can do anything she wants to now, but that she doesn’t have to decide for everyone.
Looking over some of the other threads, I’m glad that I never got into the spoilers and the script previews and the fan groups and all that. (And I don’t mean that to sound as condescending as it does.) IMO, the show just works better when you accept it as it is and don’t try to bring in details that the writers didn’t feel were relevant (like throwaway lines from four or five seasons ago). Or try to associate it with what the actors are like in real life – I don’t give a rat’s ass what Sarah Michelle Gellar is like; I just want to see what happens to Buffy Summers.
You could debate details about the finale, sure, but I say that thematically, it ended perfectly. The series has been about people, Buffy in particular, finding their true power. And one hero not only found hers, but shared it with the rest of the world.