Friend just announced he and his husband are getting a divorce (his second in less than five years).
Quick backstory - he was in a long term relationship before gay marriage was legal. They were deeply committed, cohabiting and whatnot. Shortly after they break up (within months), he announces he’s engaged to someone else. (The writing was on the wall that gay marriage was gonna be legalized.)
A few months after that, he announces that he and his fiancee are having a friend serve as a surrogate, and they are expecting.
3-4 years later, they get a divorce, and sure enough, a few months later, he announces he’s engaged again. Meanwhile, there is little (if any) record that the first marriage existed. If you went through his social media posts, you’d swear he was a single father up through the second engagement.
Well, (IIRC) another 3-4 years later, and he’s announcing divorce #2.
The part that I’m ranting about is how he’s pseudo-militant about equal rights, and has engaged in numerous debates against those who don’t believe that gays should be parents, get married, etc. They talk about how it is against family values, gays don’t respect the sanctity of marriage, etc.
So, this is just going to give those bigots more ammunition in their challenges, stating that if one of the staunchest supporters of equal rights had two divorces within a span of five years, how can he say that he respects the value of marriage.
(And it’s not that he is getting divorced - people change and grow apart. It’s the quick turnover of these relationships. I know it’s a double standard, but when it comes to equal rights, my conservative friends have a double-standard, where it’s okay for a straight person to have this background, but when a gay guy does, it shows that he doesn’t take the idea of marriage seriously. It’s a “work twice as hard to get half as far” kind of thing.)
I just really hope he takes some time to focus on being single for a while.
