I’ve wondered for years why the “butt tap” is acceptable in sports - especially those “manly” sports like football. Coaches do it - players do it too.
I just don’t get it. I understand that “chest bang in joy move”, a high five, “a jump into the crowd of players move” but the butt tap mystefies me.
Have you ever tapped a teammate’s butt - or been tapped?
Never done, never had it done. Touching another man’s butt is g…not appropriate.
A butt slap? I’ve never heard it called a tap. Is that different?
Sure, I’ve had my butt slapped. Not often. I don’t see how it’s different than a shoulder or back slap. Your butt is a pretty large muscle. It can take it.
This mystifies me as well. Though I guess it’s “handier” to smack someone on the ass instead of punching on the shoulder? It seems like the back would offer more space to smack.
Incidentally, I had my butt spanked today, though by some random guy in Starbucks. And I’m female. I don’t think I’m going to that particular location again. Unless I’ve recently been in a football game, that is.
Seriously? Where do you live? That’s seems pretty odd. It’s usually a camaraderie thing, not a “harass the cute chick thing.”
I’m in St. Louis. I’m not even a cute chick - I’m a 32-year-old woman with a kid (though didn’t have him with me at the time). Maybe it was a weird dare or something? Perhaps I had a crumb on my ass that he was oh-so-kindly attempting to remove for me? I’m going to Kaldi’s next time - the coffee’s better anyway.
Note that football players, during a game, will be wearing pads, making their shoulders and back somewhat inaccessible.
Oh, I’m sure you’re gorgeous, you coy thing.
It’s still weird though. I really didn’t think guys did that to women anymore.
Anybody else think there was gonna be a different thread in here? 
Sorry, that was me. It’s a new Kaldi’s marketing campaign; we go to all the Starbuck’s, Einstein’s, Bread Co.'s and Kayak’s and harass women to encourage them to come patronize our store.
Looks like it worked.
Totally!
I wouldn’t call it a butt-tap. A butt smack, sure – you’re aiming to make it hurt, not to make it feel all sensual and sexy. :eek: Encourage the other guy to get fired up and give it 110% on the next play and all that crap. It’s not like a QB snuggling up behind his center, softly resting his hands on the center’s ass and getting ready to have the ball delivered into his waiting, eager fingers. OK, I just totally creeped myself out.
*I’ve been on the giving and receiving end of a good hard butt smack.
Well, it’s different when football players do it (or nestle their hands on each other’s butts) because they’re all gay (not that there’s anything wrong with that).
I really don’t understand this reaction:
You just accepted it at the time, without screaming or jumping in the air or making any kind of public fuss, not even complaining to the store management?
You are now blaming the store for the actions of a customer, and punishing them by taking your business elsewhere?
You are expecting the store to know by some mental telepathy about this, since you didn’t complain at the time, nor inform them why you are taking your business elsewhere?
So while I deplore his action, I don’t see how your response helps to prevent this from reoccurring. It might make it happen more often, in that he sees he can get away with doing this.
These threads crop up from time to time, with the wondering whether the butt slap is gay.
It isn’t.
Is it more familiar than everyday interaction? Sure.
But I have never accepted a slap on the ass from a man with whom I haven’t showered.
[sub]ok, that probably didn’t help[/sub]
I’m sorry for the hijacking. I always thought it was because their hand just happens to be on the same level as the other players’ butt. That’d be an interesting thing to look into, though, given that those guys are so macho. Maybe their muscles are so big they can’t lift their arms any higher than the other guy’s butt? Or they’re so thickly muscled, they can’t move very quickly and their coach and other players are trying to give them a helpful nudge? 
I’ve also been on the receiving end of a good hard butt smack during a volleyball game and where I was getting smacked probably wouldn’t have registered if she hadn’t hit part of my thigh - you know, the upper part under the butt. It never occurred to me to ask why she hit my butt instead of my back. I just assumed it was most convenient. Plus, it’s just what you do. Like the pillow fights and showering together.
t-bonham@scc.net, I actually didn’t post my response to the ass smacking and I think you’re taking me more literally than I intended. I turned to the guy who did it and said loudly, “If you hit my ass again, you’re going to lose a hand.” Then I turned to the guy at the counter and rolled my eyes, asking, “Does he smack everyone on the butt or am I special?” And, no, I won’t stop going to Starbucks after getting hit in the ass. I don’t think it was necessarily sarcasm, perhaps an ill-made joke or hyperbole that made me say that? Anyway, I like pumpkin spice lattes too much to let some idiot smacking my butt prevent me from drinking them (though Kaldi’s Mayan mocha comes in a close second in frou frou coffees). I think I’m going to patent a butt shield, though. Or maybe a butt shelf to rest my coffee on.
Reading the title of the thread, I thought it would be about the origin of the phrase “Tap that ass” - which I’ve never understood either. Unless it’s in the beer barrel sense.
When I first saw the thread, I had to read it because I thought it was butt taping, and had to know.
I’ve never heard it called a tap. I played on the basketball team in high school and, although we often made homoerotic jokes with each other, physical contact of that kind would have been totally inappropriate. It seems like the kind of thing that would’ve caused a schism on the team.
I’m queer, but I don’t think touching anyone’s butt is really appropriate in a professional environment, and I’ve always been a proponent of the theory that athletes and coaches should be professional at their games.
Pumpkin spice is a pretty common flavoring syrup, I think.
I’m pretty sure that’s it. It’s the only way that it makes sense, and it’s how I’ve always thought of it.
I don’t think you’d want to do that to a football player, especially not if he’s been playing for a few hours. Yuck.
I wonder how Kinsey would rate this.