VinylTurnip:
I suggest you identify the processes that are causing these problems and end them. Sometimes we take on too many tasks, and they end up using all our resources. In the end, it’s all about performance. If you haven’t already, try networking— it’s really important to make good connections. Just remember that help is always available, and it’s OK if you need a little downtime. Just don’t minimize yourself, and try to always stay on top.
You’re the man.
Plagiarism is bad.
samclem:
So, how did you come by the term “butthurt?”
Since English isn’t your first language and all. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm?
I don’t think you seriously asked this. Therefore I will not answer. In case of seriousness, I have sent my skype adress to you via PM, Come and see me . :rolleyes:
Mrs.Cake:
I’m 50, which means I got through my teens and twenties with no internet upon which to post all my excrutiatingly embarassing views, mistakes, pictures, screeds, etc. I feel like I dodged a bullet there. I’m really glad that only a small handful of people know what I believed about myself and the world at say, age 22. In spite of that I still have plenty of those 3am thoughts about that horribly humiliating thing I did/said when I was 8/18/28. I can actually tell I’m blushing about stuff that everyone else forgot (please god) two days after it happened.
BTW, even at my advanced age, when in my wisdom and learning I never, ever make mistakes (hah!) I delete about 2 out of three posts composed on message boards. Wait 5 minutes, re-read, and if you still think it is a good idea, hit reply. Yeah, you get ninja’d a lot but oh well.
Did you ever share your 3 AM thoughts with other people? Won’t you give it a try to share with us?
Seriously, this is a clever answer. Demonstrates the true quality of this community.
It’s a common thing in language forums such as WordReference. I explained why it’s important to correct a non-native speaker’s mistakes in my previous posts. But, I have decided not to do it in this forum.
Soylent_Juicy:
I used to get all upset about things that were said on a message board that I frequented before I discovered the joy of The Dope. Finally I thought to myself: “Those people don’t know me. They could walk right past me on the street and have no clue. Random people on message boards don’t give a flying fuck about me or my life, so why should I waste precious brain power worrying about what they think of me, based on things I post in an anonymous forum?” …and then the stress melted away.
I think you’re totally right. But … ->
… cashiers are assholes in this city as far as I have experimented. So, forget it.
Read that my story, you’ll get it:
Today, a cashier gave me a dirty coin. At the first place I didn’t realize it was very dirty. The dirty covered almost all over the places. So, now I can’t give it to anyone without cleaning it. I am sure no one will accept it. Anyway! The reason why she gave it to me had a lot of things to do with weakness. Let me explain. I am on abroad. She realized I was stranger/foreigner/whatever-hell. So, even if I had realized, there wouldn’t have been any change. She knew I wouldn’t be able to confront her. People not only despise or demonize weak, they also exploit the weak .
After the realization of dirty coin, I went back to there. I felt so sorry about myself* that I couldn’t confront her, couldn’t say anything to her. I sat down. Just watched her how she treated other costumers. She was greeting other costumers with a big smile. 100% of other costumers get the same big smile. Because none of them were stranger/foreigner as I am. I got a dirty 2€ and and no greeting.
Just a silly example from real life. Choice to believe my story is yours.
*to be honest, I sometimes over-dramatize myself. I actually laughed at what I wrote when proof-reading. But it’s completely true I felt so sorry about myself. The realization of the fact that everyone was trying to find a way to fuck me up, exploit me… devastating.
Shark_Sandwich:
Meh. You’ve only been on the board for two weeks (not sure how long you’ve been lurking), so you may have not had a chance to pick up on everyone’s back stories and posting styles. Then you called out a charter member of the board. That’s the SDMB equivalent of taking a swing at a cop - you’re going to get piled on.
Hey, but at least you’re acknowledging your screw-up. Knowing is like, one third the battle.
Yes, you’re right. Where are you from?
phouka:
Task , (may I call you Task?), how old are you? Because what you’re experiencing is what a lot of intelligent, knowledgeable, but have-difficulty-socializing people experience in their early to mid twenties. You know a lot of stuff, you’re used to being smarter than most of the people around you, and you’re not picking up the signals that tell you when it’s appropriate and when it’s not appropriate to do something like correct someone else’s grammar.
Did you make a mistake? Yes. Did you come off as arrogant, pompous, yet ignorant? Well . . . unfortunately, yes. Do people see your name and think “oh, it’s that jerk who thinks he knows all about English?” No.
You see, it was a mistake, not a pattern of mistakes repeated over and over. You listened to the others, and you changed your behavior. Good for you!
The whole agonizing over past mistakes so much that it disrupts your life is not healthy. It could be indicative of either depression or a social anxiety. It’s crucial that you find a way around or past this, or you’re going to have a lot of unhappiness over something that really isn’t that important.
May I make a suggestion? Come join us over in the MPSIMS MMP. There’s a new one every Monday, and it’s primarily a socializing thread where people talk about life events or completely unimportant things. The pressure will be a lot less, and the people there are very accepting. Give it a try.
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Scumpup:
Have you ever heard of Gunkid ? He was a notorious and prolific troll who threw a lot of discussion boards that centered around guns or survival into turmoil. More than a few actually ended up folding when too many members left rather than put up with the endless flaming.whole boards hated Gunkid and their vituperation in the end meant nothing, that it didn’t matter if a few people said nasty things about me now and again.
Well, if I was a troll, surely I’d buy into Haters gonna hate attitude. But, because I am inherently and essentially a nice person, I’d never ever troll this beautiful community. Please behold the beautiful post below I quoted. How on the earth can you troll such generosity ?
AnaMen:
I don’t think you deserved to be treated as harshly as you were, because it seems you posted your “correction” with a genuine desire to help, not to be mean.
As simple as that
I am serious.
Exactly.
You don’t say?
“Even tough ” is more emphatic than only “tough ”
Yes.
Why? One might have to pay a native English teacher pretty much money to have his writings proofread and corrected. If you enjoy it, keep going. I genuinely appreciate.
Drunky_Smurf:
“I am still offended on the internet. That’s ridiculous. Perhaps, not ridiculous. Even if I stop using internet forums, I’ll remain butthurt until the end of my life.”
Seriously dude you need to chill out. You are taking this shit WAY too sriously. The only one who can control your emotions is you. The internet should not have this much control over you. If it does you need to step back and figure out the underlying source of why you let it have this much control over your emotions.
*sriously *should have been spelled as seriously . Plus, thank you for the advice.
*wong *should have been spelled as wrong .
Drunky_Smurf:
*And if I’ve made any mistakes then someone better come in and correct me. And they should probably make fun of me as well.
I am saying again and again, please correct my mistakes.
*Aslo *should have been spelled as Also . Yes, she’s very wise.
Truly appreciated corrections.
Mangetout:
When you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.
It’s really easy to get argued into a corner - sometimes, in disagreeing with someone who disagreed with you, you can find yourself accidentally occupying a position that you never would have considered sensible at the outset.
It’s nearly always OK to pause for a while and check if that’s what is happening. And few people will disrespect you if you reconsider your position and gracefully back down. Nobody is always right.
Yet another brilliant post. Much obliged. (:
Rachellelogram:
Something fairly unique about the Dope (and its offshoots) compared to many other forums is how *very *hard it is to bullshit your way around. I know from personal experience how far bluster and a handful of five-dollar words can get you in a lot of online communities. Here, it will get you nowhere. Period. And for people who don’t possess anything of substance to bring to the board–whether it’s wit, insight, quirky niche knowledge, or a fun/interesting personality–then you’ve got to learn to fake at *least *one of those things convincingly. If you don’t have/can’t fake any of that, you aren’t likely to enjoy your time here.
Ah, but I have a colorful personality!
Made my day.
