Would you be interested in my lottery? For one measley dollar, you have a one in 10 chance of winning 1000 dollars. However, you also have a 1 in thousand chance of loosing big, where I take most everything you own, ruin your career, give you a criminal record (which prevents you from getting many jobs forever) and throw you in jail for a few years. Heck, you might even loose custody of your kids if I am feeling extra pissy.
YOU may accept small chances of something really bad happening to hope for the better chance of something decently good happening, but many people, including me, aint taking that kind of chance.
Interesting question, I don’t know but it does bring up something interesting I do know. In California anyone subject to monitoring by the Juvie systems has severely curtailed rights. The Juveniles probabtion officer or any other cop is allowed to search anywhere in your house the monitotored teen has unfettered access to without warrant.
Yeah, I know it’s illegal. I’m saying I DON"T CARE that it’s illegal. I thoight that was pretty obvious. It’s a stupid prohibition that I will have nothing to do with helping to enforce.
Unless you are in immediate danger of death or serious bodily injury, never, never, never, never, never call the cops. Never. If you thought you had problems before, just wait until the cops make it worse for you. If you think that Andy Taylor is going to show up, talk for a little bit and make everything better, you are crazy. Don’t be surprised if YOUR life becomes the subject of an investigation.
If you are concerned about the legal situation that the drugs in your home may cause, call a lawyer, not 911. If you have truly lost control of the kid, then consult with your spouse, and then call a lawyer. The police are not parents, and they are not your friends.
ETA: I’m not blaming the police personally. They are hamstrung by the silly family laws that have take over as well. They are just following orders.
No cops. Junior would be overdue one grown-man type asswhoopin’ since he wants to play things physically. I don’t believe in corporal punishment, but I do believe in Junior learning such lessons as “'Tis folly to lay your hands upon me in an ungentle and intemperate fashion.” There will be no illegal substances dealt by anybody out of my home. Anybody who aspires to live there will follow that rule. Any illegal substances that I find will promptly be destroyed.
I’d pursue private options rather than involve LE. Bringing the law dogs in is an absolute final resort.
Let’s just say that my life experience is directly opposed to pretty much everything you wrote. IMO, the cops I have dealt with have been a positive force in my life.
For those who requested more info. My BIL works low paying jobs. Sometimes 2 jobs at once to afford a cheap apt. and a beat-up car. The son was not a problem and was doing well at school until last year when he started cutting classes to hang with his new “friends”. The dad could beat up the son in a fight, but is afraid he would go to jail if he did. My BIL has been trying to get the kid under control with groundings and talks/yelling. His wife however thinks the son should be catered to and un-grounds her child.
Why the hell didn’t dad get up and chase the little fuck down?
Seriously though, I disagree with dad especially if this is the kids first offense. Most of the reasons have already been expressed here, but mainly I think it was a situation for the family to handle, not outsiders like the cops.
But what about the violence??? Come on people it’s a shove. Not a fist. No bloody noses, probably hardly even a bruise. It may be violence technically, but not really in my book.
And do what, kick his ass? He probably spared the kid his life because if he was willing to knock his dad down and take his drug inventory it was going to be a beat down.
Good for you. I’ve not been as fortunate. I also would probably not have called the cops, had I been the parent in the OP. Still, there isn’t quite enough information given (and that might be a good thing since the law is involved now).
I don’t disagree with you, but I still think a lot of the guys I know would rather try to settle it within the family before calling the cops. Cat Whisperer: more like buzzards !
A physical confrontation in order to regain drugs for sale crosses a serious line of discipline. I can’t imagine chasing after the kid and not have it turn out badly.
