My son has some problems. He’s a good boy, but he’s very stubborn and he argues with everything I say. He’s almost twelve years old and he still throws temper tantrums.
Yesterday afternoon he and my daughter were outside plaing with one of the neighbor kids. My daughter, she weighs about 70 lbs. less then my son, came home and told me that my son hit her. I asked her to explain what happened. She told me that she hit him first, then he hit her back. I don’t think my kids should be hitting anyone, so I called them both in the house and told them that they were both grounded for the rest of the day.
My son was enraged. He was screaming and yelling very loud. I told him he had to go in his room if he was going to throw another tantrum. He punched a hole in the wall, slammed the door and continued to scream about how it was his sister’s fault that he was grounded and my fault for grounding him. After about an hour, he settled down.
Later on, he got a glass of juice and jumped into my new recliner with it, I only got it last week. I asked him not to drink his juice on the new recliner. He didn’t likethat and he started mouthing off to me. I tried to talk to him, but he became a bigger wise ass, I told him that I was taking his TV away, he was still a wise ass and getting loud again. So, I sent him to his room.
When his father got home from work, he was understandably pissed about the hole in the wall. We talked about an appropriate punishment for that and decided that we weren’t going to let him go on an outing he was looking forward to this weekend.
We told him his punishment and he started yelling again. Louder and louder. “I hate this house!” “I hate you!” “You can’t do this to me!” “You picked something to hurt me!” He just kept getting louder. We told him to stop yelling, but he didn’t. We told him he has to get some control over himself, but he didn’t.
I was so upset that I was shaking. Loud can’t describe the noise level he was making. He was send to his room and told to cool it, but he didn’t. This went on for about two hours.
After a while, I brought him back into the kitchen and gave him a glass of water, told him to wash his face and that it was too bad, he made very poor choices and he was still grounded.
About 30 minutes after that, two state police showed up at the house. One of the neighbors thought we were beating my son. The neighbor heard him yelling “you hurt me!”
The policemen talked to both me and my husband and my son. My son told them that no one hurt him and he was just yelling becasue he was mad at me. He told the police that he hit my daughter because she was a drama queen and he told them that he put a hold in the wall.
The policemen ripped into him and told him that with all that hollering he was being the drama queen. They told him that they didn’t think I was being unreasonable. And then they told him that he should be carrying on so bad because he got grounded. Then they told him to go back to bed.
After that, they told me that I should look into anger management classes for him, which I will do today. I apologized to them for having to come out here. And they said they’d much rather come out to find nothing going on then to find a child really being abused. They took our names and left.
I am worried though. I volunteer with a youth group and I’m afraid that I will be told that I can no longer do it. I’m afraid that we will get a fine for the police having to come here and I don’t have any money. I’m afraid that someone will try to take my children away. I try so hard to be a good mommy.
I’m not really mad at my neighbors, I would probably do the same thing. But I am worried that my daughter will not be allowed to play with any of the kids, because they think I’m a child abuser now.
I’m so sad and worried now.