so I can basically have a calendar (a-la google calendar/outlook calendar) accessible from my website for remote access.
Why don’t you just use Google calendar?
because that would require me signing up for google apps and messing around with how my mail server is currently setup.
i would like it integrated into my website’s email system, not some stand-alone random thing.
plus, i have issues with their data mining/automatic scanning that are a concern for this particular website.
Have you looked at
free and simple
I’ve used this one, it’s pretty good, IMO: http://www.k5n.us/webcalendar.php