If you’re a Christian, is it OK to use secular dating sites? I’ve heard arguments on both sides of the fence on this. Some have argued that if you’re a believer you should only use Christian dating sites, such as ChristianMingleor ChristianCrush in order to find like minded people who share your faith and values. However, I’ve heard others argue that it’s perfectly fine for Christians to use secular dating sites, such as Match and Eharmony because you also can find believers on those sites and just because someone is on a Christian site doesn’t guarantee they’re a true believer any way.
Determine your priorities and do what you feel is right for you. I don’t remember Jesus saying anything about on-line dating sites, so you pretty much need to depend on your own conscience and understanding of what you believe God wants for you.
If using a secular site, is it not possible to include religious beliefs and preferences in the match criteria? If so, would that not suffice? Even on the Christian sites, a Pre-Trib, Pre-Millennial, Dispensationalist could still bump into a Post-Milennialist or even a Papist, so those sites do not guarantee a rapturous marriage.
Since most people self-identify as Christian (at least here in the US), it seems to me that limiting oneself to overtly Christian sites is limiting unless you’re looking for someone who is uber-devout.
It could be that the OP is using the term “Christian” to mean Born Again or Evangelical where being Christian is a huge part of your identity. I have cousins that are like this. When they say “Christian”, they don’t mean your everyday Christians, but Christians!!
Who have argued this? besides maybe the people who run these sites, trying to drum up business for themselves…
Christians may—may—have a better chance of finding someone who shares their faith and values on a dating site that explicitly bills itself as Christian, but there’s no guarantee. The only real way to kno whether someone shares your faith and values is by getting to know them.
That’s what I was wondering. I would certainly expect a serious Christian to want to date other serious Christians, but surely there are ways of screening for that on other sites, and surely you’d want to meet the person and check that your beliefs were compatible before investing much in a potential partner, however you met them.
Some people are “cultish” about their religion. By that I mean that one of the defining characteristics of a cult as distinct from other forms of religion is that they are separatist. They advocate cutting off from those outside their religion, to a greater or lesser degree.
Such people are going to tell you that you should only use Christian dating sites.
Why are they like this? I dunno but if I was trying my hand at amateur psychology I might wonder if they were somewhat insecure and concerned that their cosy little worldview might fall apart if exposed to the market place of ideas.
It’s no big deal to me but I’ve always been a little “Christian Lite”. I do see though where sites just Christian have their place; I know people who barely date outside their denomination let alone general religion.
I was rejected by eharmony so I spent some time looking for Christians on a secular site.
Most of them seemed to be from liberal, mainstream churches (I was looking for conservative evangelicals), had some truly bizarre theology, or else were simply not physically attractive.
Christian dating utilizes a 2409.1(b) interface (colloquially known as a Zimbabwe) which is not compatible with the 7100-class interface (AKA Titan) which is the secular dating industry standard. The two protocol are so different there are no known instances of successful hookups.
Extensive research has been conducted WRT the outcome of a 2409.1(b)/7100-x coupling, but following the Bradford Team incident (insert air quotes wherever you please, LOL) there hasn’t been financial support or professional enthusiasm to further this scientific endeavor. (Would YOU rate the risk/reward favorably, given the current state of Bradford?!)