Can I have a re-do?

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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My gosh this has been a rough year.

To recap up until today:

Last March we had to put down my kitty of 22 years, due to old age. I loved that big old grey cat. Even when he was grouchy

In June, we had to put down a kitty that we rescued from a kill shelter. I thought the cat was around 5 years of age, and the vet said it had the kidneys of an 18 year old cat :eek: I swear the cat didn’t look that old but we had him for 2 years after a rescue.

Oct my husband’s grandfather died. This was the greatest hit of all. I know how much Cardsfan’s grandfather meant to him. Three generations would go deer hunting every year, and I know in my husband’s eyes his grandfather was a saint. I never met the man but when we talked, he was such a dear.

End of Oct, my favorite kitty kitty escaped. We spent 12 days looking for her and finally trapped the wench.

Which brings us up to, today.

I came home this afternoon as usual and was met at the door by three cats. Sebastian, Sabrina and Lexie. I figured Loki was probably napping somewhere and didn’t think anything of it. So I changed into my workout clothes and hit the treadmill and weights. The pool guy showed up to check the chemical levels and to brush the pool down. (we just had it installed so they check it on a daily basis) I jump in the shower and fix something to eat. Cardsfan calls (he is out hunting until the 20th of this month) We laugh and joke around about the cats, work, and him not getting a deer yet. I joke around about Loki eating everything in the house, including the silk plants and then realize I haven’t seen Loki since I got home. We hang up and my throat gets a huge lump in it.

I start searching for Loki, and I found him under our bed. I am going to have nightmares over this I know I am. The cat was dead. Not sure what he died of, because he was only 8 months of age, but I can only guess he ate something that he shouldn’t have, or he died of heart failure. At eight months the cat weighed 8 pounds, which is almost as much as Sebastian at 9 years of age.

I am not sure how to break the news to Cardsfan, since he is out of town. I called animal control to have him picked up. I didn’t know what else to do.

I went to the doctor last week for chest pains and related my life in history for the past 8 months. My doctor said I was stressing out and gave me some pills. Right now the pills are not helping me cope with the loss of Loki. He was such a sweetheat. I don’t know how I can tell Cardsfan. I just can’t do this anymore.

:frowning:

Can someone stop the world from rotating long enough for me to get off for a while. I don’t like this year in history. It hasn’t been fun.

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This whole 21st century thing was a bad idea from the start. I warned them not to go ahead with it, but did they listen? No! And it’s been one goddam disaster after another for the past four years.

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{{{TiggrKitty}}}

My condolences to you both.

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Hang in there - I’m pretty sure it can only get better. {{{{{{TiggrKitty}}}}}}

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You know I was thinking; 2012 was suppose to be the bad year, according to the Mayan calendar, but on reflection, it can’t be any worse than this one.

My whole life has been ups and downs but NEVER in my whole life have I ever lost so many that I loved to death in a single year. :frowning:

Gut feeling is, it isn’t over yet.

I really don’t want to face any more death this year, and I am weary beyond words. My job has been a bitch since I have a new manager and with everything else…I really need to recharge and can’t.

Please email me if you have any ideas on how to get me through this.

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This year has really sucked for me too. My dog died a few months ago, my father has been diagnosed with cancer and I’m currently drowning in a swamp of school stress.

We’ll both get through it. Maybe not pleasantly, but we’ll see the other end.

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I’ll agree with “2004 can suck my balls”.

This may be the first time I’m looking forward to January.

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Put me down for a “Me Too.”

A running joke in my family has long been to ask you on your birthday “So, do you feel any older?” Because really, is there any difference between 18 and 19? 24 and 25?

This was the first year that I actually (and seriously) answered 'Yes." The past year and a half have just kicked the crap out of me.

So how do I get a do-over?

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Well, Tiggrkitty. while I would agree the death of the 8 month old cat is tragic, I would say the other cats (and humans) lived a pretty good life from what I read.

You had one cat that lived 22 years. Earlier this year we had to put down my beloved Socks as he was dying of lymphoma. He was only 11, half the age of your cat. We have another cat, Buster, but Buster isn’t anything that Socks was. Now that Socks is gone, I really regret not letting him in my room all those times he tried to sneak in when I opened the door to talk to my mom :frowning:

You also rescued a cat from a kill shelter, likely stretching out his life for another two years, and giving him a very comfortable and secure place to live out his days. I’d say a pretty good kitty nusring home :slight_smile:

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My condolonces, Tiggrkitty.

This year had a lot of ups and downs for me. I got drunk for the first time (New Year’s), lost a cat, tried a lot of new things (not related), started smoking, had an amazing (and heavily chemically altered, but otherwise G-rated) prom night, had some terrible drama with my prom date afterwards, almost didn’t graduate (not related), graduated, stopped smoking, tried some more new things, discovered sex, discovered sexual tension/drama, started flings, ended flings, left all my friends who meant the world to me, started college, had good and bad test scores, dropped classes, added classes, started dating, stopped dating, thought about starting again, gone to court to defend myself in a criminal case (smoking pot) for the first time (am currently completing a first-time-offender program), and seen dear friends from home get kicked out of school and try to get back on their feet (not related but similar).

It’s been an interesting year, and while a lot of things have happened that I wouldn’t have wished for, I’ve seen and done a lot of new and amazing things that I wouldn’t trade for the world. Are there things I could do better if I could start the year over again? Yes. Would I? No. Although I’ve seen some sadness and some rough times, I’m glad for another year of life adventures, experiences, and learning.

I hope that you will eventually be able to look back and say the same. Either way, I wish you the very best of luck this year, next year and onward. Things must be tough right now, but I swear they’ll get better. They always do.

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First off, my sympathies, Tiggrkitty.

And it was odd to read the thread title, because I’ve been thinking the exact same thing the past couple of days. I really, really don’t actually want to re-live this year, though.

Maybe instead of a re-do, I’d just like a time machine so I can go back to specific points and tell myself how to handle it. Maybe just a bunch of notes left for myself, so that it would eventually sink in and even if I couldn’t change anything, I could at least not handle it so badly:

“Don’t get too attached to that job, it’ll just get cancelled.”
“Don’t take that job!”
“Stay away from that person.”
“Just stay at home tonight, don’t go out.”
“Just come out of the closet already.”
“If you had to take that job, at least don’t volunteer to do that!”
“He’s just not into you.”
“Call your friend back NOW or you’ll lose her for good.”
“Stop working so much.”
“No really, he’s not into you. Move on.”
“Don’t spend so much time working on that, it’ll just get changed.”
“Calm down, it’s not worth arguing over.”
“He’s not into you, either.”
“Neither is he, but you’re better off without him.”
“Keep at the job, it gets better.”
“Kerry’s going to lose. Don’t get your hopes up.”
“That guy’s not going to call back.”
“And don’t start pining for the other one, either. I told you twice he’s not into you.”
“Don’t go whining on the SDMB. You’ll just regret it later.”

Here’s to a much better 2005.

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Thanks everyone.

This is why I like this board and it’s people. I don’t feel so alone, because there are others out there feeling the same thing. I have never wanted a year to end faster than I want this one to end.

I hope 2005 brings happier times for all of us. I know I sure could use it right now.

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I’m finding the only things getting me through are ice cream, valium, and total denial.

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Number one, my sympathies–I know how much it hurts.

Number two, if we’re going for re-do’s, can I get another 2002? That year, I lost my apartment, had to give away two cats I loved, got my heart broken by a guy I barely even knew, spent several months on Corporate America’s version of “double secret probation,” and my best friend died.

I feel your pain, and I’ve been there–if I got through it, you can too.

And Eve’s right. Ice cream and valium–I think they should just be sold together, it’d make many women’s lives easier.

Good luck–and only 46 sucking days left till 2005.

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This is the part of the thread where someone describes how good 2004 was:

Insert support of 2004 here

There you go. In fact I may have been overly generous. :frowning:

This year was the second and, thankfully, the final year of my studies at Sixth Form. I hated that place so much. If it wasn’t the loud, obnoxious, know-it-all teachers it was the fact that I stopped eating lunch there (At the start of 2004 no less) because I had sat alone for the past 6-9 months. I resorted to hiding in the library just so that my humiliating lonelyness wasn’t a public event. That place got me really depressed, so depressed in fact that I skipped at least 3-4 days a week in the last 2 months.

This year we’ll probably be giving up the little baby my mum fosters. She applied to adopt him but was turned down because of race. :mad: So Social services have just held out for a family to come for over a year, and now they’ve fast-tracked a couple through to probably take him before christmas. Great present, huh?

Add to that moving another 100 miles from the only friends I had, who couldn’t be bothered to call and the fact that I still don’t have a girlfriend and the fact that my dog, who is very old and very ill, will probably die before christmas I’d say things are sucky.

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Good God, but this past year has indeed sucked, and began sucking for me back in July of 2003. I won’t go into details, because thinking about everything makes me feel sick…

{{{Tiggrkitty and everyone in this thread}}}

I will say that things have been looking up for me and mine here lately. I sincerely hope that things continue to prosper for me, my family, and my Doper family. Yes, I consider you guys my online family. I love this place, and I love you guys.

Here’s to a much improved 2005!

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{{{{{Tiggrkitty}}}}}

I understand from tick you’re taking a small break from the boards.
We’ll miss you. :frowning:
Email if there’s anything I can do for you.

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Eve, will you enter into a civil union with me?

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Please email me if you have any ideas on how to get me through this.

I’ll hand over the best advice I ever got. So good it belongs in the public domain.

When times are rough, complete one task each day. It could be as simple as returning a phone call or sweeping the kitchen floor or taking a walk. It could be as taxing as cleaning a closet or painting a room. Whatever the task, think of it as you’re going to sleep each night. Remind yourself that you took control of ONE thing. You accomplished ONE thing.

Today I donated some clothing.
Today I polished my shoes.
Today I gave myself a facial.
Today I canceled that stupid credit card.
Today I tipped the newspaper guy.

It’s surprisingly empowering. You’ll look forward to hopping in bed and reflecting on little victories. Soon you’ll be hopping in bed and reflecting on a BUNCH of little victories each day. They give you purpose. They keep you going.

Rich stuff.

You’re in my thoughts, Tiggrkitty. I’m ever so sorry for your loss.

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{{{{Tiggrkitty}}}}
This year has sucked for me, too. I’m really hoping 2005 will be better, but I’m not too hopeful. A little under a month into it, I will turn 30 :eek: