Can you induce ejaculation by massaging the prostate?

[Bad_Astronaut]

@kimera

Of most of the men who I’ve talked to who had this done and didn’t enjoy it, many of them had homophobic tendencies or were outright homophobic. In order to properly enjoy assplay, you have to be relaxed and, if you are worried about gayness, it is very difficult to relax.

Since all men have prostrates, I believe that any man could come to enjoy prostrate massage. First, you need to be comfortable with having things in your ass. Second, you need to take your time and stretch the anus so that it doesn’t hurt. Thirdly, you need to get someone (or a device) to properly stimulate the prostrate.

This is exactly what Dr. Drew often criticized on Loveline - the idea that everyone (of both genders) would enjoy receptive anal if they would just stop being so uptight. This is often a theme of sexual “free spirits” such as sex columnists.

Another related theme that Drew regularly debunked is the idea that all women can have great orgasms from intercourse alone, and if they can’t then they or their partners aren’t doing it right.

To be fair though, Drew is not exactly the poster boy for evidence-based medicine.

[Zulaboz]

I feel I have to resurrect this thread to offer my own experience.
Sorry if it gets a bit graphic, I will try and keep it fairly terse.
It’s all in the name of scientific exploration

To test the feeling and result of a proper prostate massage I’ve attempted to do it several several times using various implements. Nothing ever came of it, pardon the pun.

Usually I would feel something pleasurable, and at times it would start getting really good, but for some reason it never got past that point, and it seemed the area would get insensitive and hard to stimulate again if I happened to slack for a minute or lose concentration.

Then I bought a curved implement, having been informed through research that it was the best possible tool for accomplishing the task. After a couple of tries which were also unsuccessful (success being defined as producing ejaculate fluid), I had my partner try. Somehow she managed to find a highly pleasurable spot with her fingers, but tired from the strain before anything earth shattering happened.

Now I had a much better idea of where to try. The area producing the strongest sensations wasn’t as far in as I previously thought, but I still wasn’t sure exactly where or how I’d find it on my own. On my latest attempt, it seemed a repeat of previous attempts, not particularly arousing or pleasurable beyond a certain point, up until I almost gave up and tried even less deep than I thought I had to, mostly so I could know for certain that it wasn’t the spot either.

Unexpectedly, the motion was intensely pleasurable and almost immediately produced a strong erection. Within a short while the rhythmic stimulation caused a full manually controlled ejaculation, with more ejaculate than normal. Interestingly, even though I tried to force the ejaculate by tensing my PC muscle, it didn’t have nearly as much effect as was accomplished by the tool.
Also interesting, while extremely pleasurable and easily comparable to a regular orgasm - though lasting much longer, there was no refractory period at all. The erection was still present and none of the mental/physical feelings that typically accompany the refractory period were present either.

It seems that being at least slightly aroused or erect helps the process considerably, at least in my experience, possibly by enlarging the area internally and making it more sensitive or plain easier to hit.
However, I’ve seen several people in online videos accomplish the same effect while being entirely flaccid, so it doesn’t seem to be necessary.

In my experiments I have not once experienced any pain or unpleasant feelings. I think being relaxed and not having any kind of hang-ups about stimulating that part of the body is important for a good experience. People with misgivings or some delusion that it’ll make them gay probably shouldn’t try.

It may take a bit of practice, as I can attest to, but all the fumbling around certainly paid off.
Good luck to anyone finding this post via google.
It’s something everyone ought to try at least once, in the name of scientific progress

[johnpost]

zombie or no

glad everything came out all right.

lovers with long fingers can’t be beat.

[Justanotherdude]

Sheesh. Bunch of repressed virgins here. Get a girlfriend. Have her stick a lubricated finger up your unclenched ass. Have her move the finger in a “come here” motion. Masturbate while she does this and squeezes your balls with her other hand. Massive happy orgasm. Almost like she’s pushing the cum out from the inside while you’re pulling it out from the outside. Rinse and repeat.

(Dr. Drew is a moron. Don’t listen to morons. A clinical exam is not a sexual experience. At least it’s not supposed to be.)

To the old guys whose doctors are still doing this: this test has been discredited. Try getting a doctor who studied medicine recently. Too many false positives leading to too many unnecessary biopsies. Either they’re ignorant or they like sticking their finger up your ass to “milk” the insurance company.

[Kropotkin]

@kimera

Since all men have prostrates, [sic]

Well, I used to have one, but it was recalled a year or so ago

[Mean_Mr.Mustard]

Last prostate exam I had, the doctor said to me, “Don’t worry, it’s not unusual to get an erection during this procedure.”

“I don’t have an erection,” I said.

“I know,” he replied. “I do.”

[pkbites]

@Mean_Mr.Mustard

Last prostate exam I had, the doctor said to me, “Don’t worry, it’s not unusual to get an erection during this procedure.”

“I don’t have an erection,” I said.

“I know,” he replied. “I do.”

I’ve just finished up a long, terrible day and really needed this laugh!

[Chronos]

[Moderating]
@Justanotherdude, there are multiple problems with that post. First of all, this thread is over a decade old, and some of the medical experiences people are describing are older yet. Even if digital protrate examination is discredited now (and by the way, do you have any cite for that? We’re not real big on people just asserting things here without support), it wasn’t when the posters in this thread had it.

Second, and more importantly, we have rules on this message board, and if you intend to stick around, you would do well to learn them. One of our rules is that you can attack the posts or ideas of other posters, but (outside of our BBQ Pit category, which has special rules) you cannot attack the posters themselves. This is an official Warning for personal attacks.

[Moriarty]

So, well over a decade ago, you stumble on this website, which prides itself on providing unvarnished truth on even controversial topics. And you read it pretty much daily, although you don’t become such a prolific poster that you are necessarily recognized by the regulars.

Then, one day, you are scrolling through the forums and see a question about prostrate orgasms, and are struck by how unusual some of the questions are, and so you click on it, more out of morbid curiosity than anything else, because it’s not something you really have thought about.

And that’s when you discover that you were the OP, even though you never in a million years would have claimed the post, and would have been adamant that this isn’t something that you’ve ever wondered.

And here we are.

(Road Trip was a really funny movie, though, and I say that as somebody who doesn’t go for gross humor and never liked Tom Green)

[Chronos]

Yup, that’s the Straight Dope for you!

[thdudescar]

Too late. I don’t have a prostate anymore.

[bump]

That’s a hell of a first post, BTW.

[BonzaiBacon]

Hope no one complains that I necro-raised this thread. I’ve had several prostate exams and every one of them was painful. I’ve had prostatitis off and on since my 30s and recently bought a prostate massager to see if I can find relief from mild “fullness” that never seems to relieve itself after sex so sex hasn’t been that enjoyable for a few years. It’s like the orgasm doesn’t seem to empty the plumbing out completely and trying for more than 1 takes forever. Some of this is probably medication and age induced. I figured trying the massager would be easier on my ego than asking my female urologist PA to give my prostate a squeeze haha. The first couple times I tried using it I had a hard time getting it in all the way but realized I was fighting it. My moment of victory was short-lived due to the 2nd set of factory batteries dying out shortly after installing them. I also got a pretty rough case of hemorrhoids afterwards despite all the lube I used. My wife was surprised when I bought this and hasn’t been part of this experiment. I figure when I know what I’m doing with this I’ll let her in on how it works. For her patience with me maybe I’ll buy her a Hitachi wand.

[BonzaiBacon]

Haha thanks for that laugh

[BonzaiBacon]

hope you’re ok

[Slithy_Tove]

OT, but perhaps of linked interest the 5th episode of The Premise on Hulu was pretty good.

[thdudescar]

Thanks for asking. I’m fine, a little touch of cancer. The side effects are the bummer. Better than the alternative.

[gotpasswords]

@countthread

One thing to remember is there is a difference between a prostate orgasm and prostate milking. I believe that the latter can be accomplished in virtually all men, i.e. via the prostate you can be stimulated to ejaculation without the accompanying orgasm. I believe you could hear more about it from some BDSM/chastity fetishists (allegedly, it’s quite frustrating-- release without satisfaction, and all that jazz).

(bolding mine)
They call that a “ruined orgasm” and it’s done primarily as a health maintenance activity to reduce the chances of ailments like epididymitis and prostate problems caused by not ejaculating.