I hate that word.
My husband went into the hospital to get his appendix removed on wednesday night.
Saturday morning we find out he had cancer surrounding his appendix. They need to do a cat scan in two to three weeks when he gets his staples out to see if it spread.
He’s only 28. I’m 24.
Merry Christmas.
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You’re both in my thoughts and prayers.
Oh how awful. Bad news. Appendix out. Owie. Really bad news. They found cancer. I hope that they took out all that they found! But you have to wait 2-3 weeks worrying??!?! ACK! Why do they have to wait to do the CAT scan? I’ll keep you both in my prayers, too, and pray that the next news is good news and that it comes quickly.
thanks twickster.
I guess why does anyone post about stuff going on in their life?
for pure sympathy.
so i take what i can get. at least we are home now from the hospital. I love the boy so much it hurts.
DeVena we have to wait two to three weeks because they need the swelling to go down first and the staples to come out. thanks for the prayers and well wishes.
Oh man. 
That really, really sucks.
Good luck and stuff.
I am sorry to hear about this. I’m sure it must be agony to have to wait for answers like this but I certainly hope they will be able to tell you that it’s all been removed. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
many, many, many hugs
Oh man, a couple weeks ago I started a Pit thread about a chest bone I was worried about. (Unfounded, thank God) But you’ve had a doctor tell you there is actually cancer there.
Based on what I was feeling over that weekend wondering “what if?” I hope to never know what you and your husband are going through right now. And at such a young age. It’s one thing to deal with this in my parents, I can’t imagine what it’s like with a spouse.
I can’t think of anything to say that may make you feel better. I’m sorry. But hopefully they caught it soon enough to treat it. I mean, if it was “do something now or else” I can’t see them waiting so long for a Scan. With all the new treatment options and drugs available, I’d say there is a lot of reason to keep hope alive.
Good luck to you and him.
I’m 26. My husband is 24. We’ll both be praying for you.
I know it doesn’t seem like it now, but thank God he had to have his appendix out. Just think - you’ve found it now, instead of months or years later after it’s spread. I’ll say an extra prayer for you both tonight.
StG
I really do appreciate the support. It’s hard because I’m from NJ and we’re in AR so all of my family is still in NJ. I’m not going to make them fly here or anything like that. Not unless things were just you know, completely bad.
And yes, had his appendix not went bad, we never would have known he had cancer until it was too late. The doctor said she had a patient die of this kind of cancer because it had already spread to her pancreas before they knew she had it.
She said we have up to two months to get the tests done, whatever that means. What sucks is this is all w/out insurance. There’s a social worker though at my job I’m going to talk to when she gets there about getting on medicaid. I don’t even want to know what this bill is going to be like.
Also it isn’t an aggresive cancer like breast cancer or what have you. She said had the cancer spread to his liver it is still treatable. We just can’t help but think, cancer. Like damn it happens to other people not us. We’ll sit here and see commercials about pills to help w/chemo and just look at each other, wondering.
Wow. How awful.
Best of luck to you and your husband, WomanOfScorn.
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Don’t take this as advice. It’s just a suggestion to explore. But at this point exhaust all options.
You mentioned Medicaid. At your husband’s age I assume you’re not making cash hand-over-fist? You both are young and without insurance. Yet you have some big bills possibly coming your way. (But maybe not, ::all Dopers are hoping for the best:
Check out ALL organisations for aid. Salvation Army, Goodwill, St. Vincent DePaul. All of them. I don’t know what you think of organized religions, but they don’t care where you stand. They will help in some way.
Possibly helpful: Some general information about circumstances in which insurance covers a pre-existing condition (you might have to scroll to the question about it):
Also, information about the Arkansas high-risk insurance pool program:
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I am so sorry about this news. I hate the word cancer too.
I wish I had wise words or some way to make this go away
but I don’t. I can and will pray and do have a shoulder and
an ear if you need them. My email is public if you want to talk.
It is good to hear that there are ways to treat this.
May all go well with the tests,
Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry you and your husband are going through this. I hope his treatment goes smoothly and successfully.
Yay for finding the cancer !
Booooo for having it.
I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts and send positive vibes your direction!
Welcome to the fun, fun world of medical and insurance migraines. Keep neat records and write down names of whomever you talk too.
I am so sorry to hear your news. Sending warm thoughts your way!
WomanOfScorn, obviously you don’t want to wait two months to have it tested, but I find it hopeful that the doctor said you could wait that long; it would be much more worrisome if the doctor was talking about testing ASAP. I will keep you and your husband in my prayers.
As far as insurance, do talk to Social Services, and see what they offer; if they can’t help you (they often won’t even take your application until you have a bill in your hand), see if there is a charity hospital near you. These hospitals like payment, but if you simply can’t pay, they’ll waive all fees, also they’ll work with you to set up a payment schedule you can deal with.
Best of luck, and keep us posted!
Ooh, best of luck. Good to hear it’s not an aggressive cancer. Wish I had something better to say, but know that you and your husband are receiving all my best wishes!
I’m 24 with a 28-year-old boyfriend… I can’t imagine what I’d do in your situation. It’s scary how it can happen to anyone.