Two years ago, I adopted Zivafrom a local rescue group. She gets along well withour psycho Bengal, Taz, and mostly ignores our dog. She’s nearly 3 years old now, having spent 2/3 of her life with us.
Ziva is my cat for sure. She’ll curl up next to me when I’m knitting, occasionally climb in bed with me when I’m watching TV alone, and will come to me for skritches if I reach out to her. My husband, on the other hand, is another matter entirely.
He has never done anything to her, never abused her, never taunted her, nothing to traumatize her, but she acts like he’s beaten her regularly. When she’s next to me as I knit, if he rises from his seat on the other side of the room, she’ll bolt. Sometimes all it takes is for him to sneeze, and she’s outta here. If she’s sitting on the recliner in the family room and he walks into the room, she departs in a blur of grey fluff.
BUT, if she’s on the cat tower or on the raised shelf where we feed the cats (keeping the food away from the dog) she’ll let he pet her and scratch her, and she purrs like crazy. She’ll even, or rare occasions, let him pet her when she’s sitting on his dresser in the bedroom. Outside of these 3 places, she acts like he’s evil incarnate.
Same for my mother-in-law, who is the gentlest animal lover I’ve ever know. She raised an orphaned baby squirrel, fercryinoutloud!!! But she can’t approach Ziva. Nor can my daughter, or anyone else, for that matter. When strangers come in the house, the cat retreats to her safe place, under my side of the bed.
Is there any hope for socializing her? Or do we have to live with these idiosyncracies?