A friend of mine is going to be participating in the NYC area AIDS Walk in mid-May. She has HIV herself, but I don’t think that’s incredibly relevant - more like a point of interest. This, if you don’t know, is a walk for charity - walkers try to collect as many sponsors as they can.
I’ve barely seen her this semester - our schedules don’t mesh. About a month ago, maybe a month & a half, she popped up on my AIM. We exchanged hellos & such, no mention of the AIDS Walk. She then said,
And I did. It was her sponsor sheet for the AIDS walk - listed dontation amounts you could check off, places for name/address/credit card info, etc. I was a bit surprised, I gotta say. I don’t have a credit card anyway, actually.
“Soooooo?”, says she.
“Sooooo…I don’t have a credit card, actually”. says I.
"Oh, that’s fine. You can just give me a check or something if i see you at school, you don’t need to do it by credit card’.
I just said “Oh, I see”, & that was that. Haven’t seen her since, but spoke to her earlier this week - she called me to see if we could hang out today (Sunday) & obliquely mentioned the donation issue. I didn’t take the bait. She never called to shore up plans as she said she would.
My question is this; am I at all justified in feeling a bit uncomfortable with/annoyed by her approach? I have no problem with donating to AIDSWalk. I do have a problem with the approach she took - I feel as though she shoved me into a corner, as opposed to simply asking if I could donate. I also feel a bit used, considering the fact she didn’t call me after I didn’t tell her anything about a donation. Am I being overly sensitive?