Fuck you, you fucking fuck!
(Is that better?
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Seriously, though, I like Coldfire. He’s a nice guy. I don’t know Aldebaran, but I value other points of view. In my opinion Aldebaran frequently sees insults when they aren’t there. Other Posters seem ready to pounce on his comments at the slightest provocation. I’ve pounced on at least one of his comments myself, and I’ll admit that I may have misunderstood his response that prompted my reply.
This escalation of the word war is creating a lot of bad feelings. Aldebaran seems to be on the road to banishment. Why? Because he misunderstands what people post, and he responds in a style that many posters find objectionable. It seems to me that neither side will admit that they might be wrong. Do we really want Aldebaran to be banned? If he is, then he will perceive it as being banned for his beliefs; not because of his posting style.
I think that Aldebaran needs to calm down and understand that not everything is an attack. I think Other Posters need to calm down and not jump down his throat every time he posts.
Aldebaran posted about the loss of his “Beloved”. That was a very touching thread. I think that we need to consider that the person who posted that thread, and the person you’re flaming here are the same person.
I think that we should all cut the guy some slack, and that he should do likewise. If he makes an inflamatory post, then maybe we should consider that it might have been prompted by a language difference and cultural differences; not that he’s trying to be a prick.
I assume he is of Middle Eastern descent. The M.E. is a mess. I used to work with a black guy who claimed that all white people are racists. This rankled because I was not raised in a prejudicial environment. How does one prove “lack of prejudice”? I don’t know if it can be done. This coworker had a very different upbringing from mine. He was a teenager in L.A. in the '60s, a time of great racial discord. Of course his perception will be different from mine. I’m guessing that Aldebaran was raised in a different environment from most of us, and that his perceptions are therefore quite different from Americans, Brits, Dutch, etc. The more he is attacked for his views, the more he is convinced he is right. We need more understanding in the world, not more vitriol.
I’ll repeat myself: Let’s all just step back and calm down. Aldebaran’s “Beloved” thread shows that we have much in common. We can still disagree with one another, but we shouldn’t start frothing at the mouth because one side or the other does not fully understand what the other side is saying.
Let’s not take things too personally. Minty Green and I disagree vehemently on the subject of gun control; to the point where I have stopped getting into arguments with him because neither of us will budge. But we agree on other things, and except for gun control threads I think we’re quite cordial when we interact. Sometimes it’s better to simply agree to disagree and move on.