So, this morning a (male) co-worker says to me (I am female), “that looks like a comfortable outfit!” (faux suede material pants and matching oversized button down shirt in a pale green. It is extremely comfortable. I fear it almost looks like pajamas, but others have assured me it doesn’t.) He said it in a tone of voice as if it was meant to be a compliment and I generally get along with this person, but still… it struck me as a weird thing to say. In the past, he has commented on a shimmery shirt I wore, he once mentioned he noticed I always match my lipstick to my clothing, and on another occassion he told me that he thinks I dress classy. (these are all of the compliments I have received from him over maybe a 6 month period).
So, what is this “comfortable” thing supposed to mean?
a. Everything else I wear does not look comfortable?
b. Comfortable implies not professional or taking back his classy comment?
c. I am getting too old to be stylish and now must settle for comfortable? (look at my user name and try to guess how old I am.)
d. He wants to talk to me that badly and he couldn’t think of anything else to say?
See if you can use more parentheses than I did in your replies. :smack:
I agree with twickster. He likes you and that’s all he could think of to say. Even if it were not the case, I think you shouldn’t worry so much about it.
Yep d. for sure. I did try to use lots of parentheses but it seems that you used up the quota for this thread so I’ll just have to use smilies instead!!
This reminds me of a joke where a couple is sitting on the couch not talking to each other. The woman has all these thoughts about something bad that happened or if something wrong was said or if maybe she offended him someway or that possibly the relationship was grinding to a halt or that maybe he doesn’t love her anymore. The guy was thinking about the lousy round of golf he played.
Sometimes you can read toomuch into something. Making a mountain out of a molehill, so to speak. He was just making small talk, nothing more.
You were probably joking, but 72 would be the year I was born, not my age… I have a three year old son. That would be a feat at 72!!!
My problem is I can’t figure out if he is just friendly or if he is going out of his way to talk to me… I feel like he is kissing my ass a lot of the time, but there is no reason for him to do so. He doesn’t report to me or anything. We are both members of an implementation team. He talks to me about all kinds of stuff - including the woman he is sort of seeing, so I don’t think it is sex… I am still currently married but it is no secret here at work that I won’t be much longer. His efforts just seem a little off kilter and I haven’t been able to figure out why.
I think Frank#2 is probably right… though. Reading into it too much.
(hey! I made it through with no parentheses!) (drat!)
I wouldn’t make too much out of it - I’ve worked with many people over the years and I’ve tossed out similar comments to a.) biuld someone’s confidence, b.) maintain good relations in the office, c.) note that I truly thought their dress was remarkably good attire and d.) ease into a morning that must necessarily involve less fun stuff.
It’s been at least 20 years since I thought the workplace was good babe hunting grounds.
