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Turn-offs for me:
The dude must be a tall, muscular, dark-haired, crew cut conservative who’s twisted as a pretzel in private and drives like he’s qualifying. Drinking, smoking and general crabbiness are okay, too,
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Shit.
[QUOTE=Jodi]
[Hijack] It’s called “snoose” where I come from too (Montana) and also in the Dakotas where there was a large percentage of Norwegian settlers. But there’s no verb form, no “to snoose.” Dang, I haven’t heard “snoose” in years . . . .
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It’s familiar for me in Visconsin too.
Poor hygiene - self explanatory. Don’t think I can’t tell you haven’t bathed, brushed your teeth, or used deoderant. Yes, you do smell.
Smoking - ugh
Lack of self-confidence - I’m strong-willed and I’m attracted to like-minded people. Know what you want, don’t be afraid to say so, back up the talk with action. Don’t wait around for me.
Sloth - if you’re lazy it isn’t going to work out.
Physically inactive or otherwise sedentary - Again, I lead an active life and I want someone to particiate in life with me. Parked in front of a computer, TV, or other diversion all night? Not for me.
An ability to hold a conversation - Talk with me. Have an opinion and be able to express it.
An interest in the world and what’s going on it - I enjoy popular culture as much as the next person, but if you’re interests include only TV, movies, video games (UGH), and the like I’m not interested in you.
A sense of style - Completely different than fashion. Jeans and a t-shirt have their place. If your wardrobe doesn’t include a dress you could wear when I put on my tuxedo it isn’t going to work out.
Playful and spontaneous - Life’s short. Let’s go to the beach - NOW.
Open-minded about sex - I’ve got some kinks. Nothing too extreme, but they’re there. Be game to give nearly everything (within some limites)a try and we’ll be fine. How can you say you don’t like green eggs and ham if you’ve never tried green eggs and ham?
Willing to be in a relationship with a man who has a child - You can’t compete with my daughter.
I’m adult enough to know what I like, what I find attractive, and what I’m looking for in a person. Luckily, I found it all on one person - my wife.
Smoking is an immediate no. Someone’s inherent smell is another, maybe it’s a pheromonal reaction but I lose all attraction to anyone that smells the slightest bit strange to me.
Extreme moralism (fundamentalism, militant veganism, or other general disdains for differing lifestyles) is a turnoff.
[QUOTE=HazelNutCoffee]
Apart from the more obvious stuff (like bad hygiene and extreme drug use) there is a certain vibe that I get from guys that I call the “Asian fetish” vibe. It’s when I get the feeling that the guy likes Asian girls because of some weird idea he has of them being submissive/exotic/etc.
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Heheh. Any time I meet a person who has this “submissive/exotic” stereotype of Asian women, I definitely have to give them a sidelong glance and ask if they have actually MET any Asian women. I’m not sure I have ever known a woman from China who was not very outspoken, and my Korean girl friends are not far behind…
Complete and immediate and irreconcilable turnoffs:
Smoking. Whether they’re actually smoking or say they smoke or get near me and I smell smoke breath. I’d rather be locked in a room with a vomit pail.
Hard-core Republicans.
Anyone who starts proselytizing. I’d run like hell from anyone who was fundamentalist anything.
Gross, cruddy, or unfortunately genetically bad scary teeth.
Heavy drinkers, or someone who on a two- or three-hour date, for example, has five or six drinks and can’t fathom doing something where no liquor is available. Blech.
Bad breath. If I have to back away, it’s all over.
Mean to animals. Rude to service people. Snotty to old people Buh-bye.
There’s more but I’m going to make myself sound like The Princess and the Pea, and really, I’m not like that!
[QUOTE=Hockey Monkey]
Hairy back (squicks me right out)
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That’s it. We are so broken up.
I want my CDs back.
Idiots, rude people, wearers of too much make-up or scent, those who swear too much, sexists, and hypocrites turn me right off.
[QUOTE=pbbth]
Also the dipping, which is quite possibly the grossest of all tobacco habits.
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Superlative accepted, given the rarity of tobacco clysters in the last century or so.
[QUOTE=Slithy Tove]
Superlative accepted, given the rarity of tobacco clysters in the last century or so.
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Do I really want to know what a “tobacco clyster” is?
[QUOTE=Slithy Tove]
Superlative accepted, given the rarity of tobacco clysters in the last century or so.
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We’ll just file that under “ignorance I would have rather you left unfought.” :eek: 
ETA: Here you go, Sunspace.
[QUOTE=Sunspace]
Do I really want to know what a “tobacco clyster” is?
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Nope. Look it up if you dare, but trust me.
[QUOTE=HazelNutCoffee]
Apart from the more obvious stuff (like bad hygiene and extreme drug use) there is a certain vibe that I get from guys that I call the “Asian fetish” vibe. It’s when I get the feeling that the guy likes Asian girls because of some weird idea he has of them being submissive/exotic/etc. It’s usually pretty evident within 10 minutes of talking to the guy. That is a definite turn-off for me.
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Odd anecdote along these lines: way back when I was in university, I took a lot of East Asian history and language courses. One (male) professor noted my interest and said something along the lines of ‘great choice of courses to meet Asian women’.
Squigged me right out somehow. Way he said it - not joking at all, I think - it was as if it was an understood thing that a Caucasian guy like myself would only be interested in the culture for that reason. Mildly insulting, looking back on it. Moreover, not at all an appropriate choice of comment.
Wasn’t true in my case - I have no strong feelings one way or the other in that respect (I was in fact dating a Ukranian at the time - now my wife 
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EDIT: That’s hampsters for you.
[QUOTE=eleanorigby]
Ack! Another presumption about a country I’ve long wanted to visit dashed! Do these women carry around cups to spit into? Is this done in restaurants or is it more an at home thing?
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Everyone’s quite a bit ashamed about it, and most people (id est, non-assholes) won’t do it in mixed company. Expect to see it quite a bit if you go to private parties, though. They don’t carry around spit-boxes - it’s the kind you put under your upper lip, if I wasn’t clear - they mostly avail themselves to nearby trashboxes and other places people usually put garbage.
(Please, if you come to Norway, do yourself a favour - travel around in the country for a bit and by the love of Og, don’t confine yourself to Oslo)
Stupidity
Arrogance
Lack of Empathy/Compassion
Physically, bad or dirty teeth. shudders
Obnoxious bumper stickers - I honestly don’t give a shit who you voted for in '04 or that your kid made the honor roll
Bad breath - Yikes
Excessive tattoos - It’s akin to knifing a brilliant painting
Too serious/lack of sense of humor - If you can’t laugh at yourself, I will.
Poor tipper - Whatsoever you do to the least of my brothers…
Obsessive about money/Label dropping - Boring and gauche
Overly partisan - If you think your political party/religion has a corner on truth, then you’re an idiot.
Litterers - You should be ashamed of yourself
[QUOTE=Dung Beetle]
Many of the above, and interest in sports. My first husband was sports obsessed, and he’s turned me off it for life…not that I ever understood it in the first place. I’m sorry, but I can’t handle it anymore.
Yes, sports fans, our relationship would have to be sex only. 
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What is wrong with all the single guys on these board? If I weren’t competely 100% pussy whipped all be all over this one.
“Baby, I’m soo into sports, your bed or mine?”
I’ve normally been very particular about choosing the women in my life. It would be easier to list the things that attract me, than those that repel. However, at first glance w/ little or no interaction I’d avoid gross obesity, visible tattoos, facial piercings, too much jewelery and too much skin. I’d prefer a smoker to a person who felt the need to rudely pontificate on the evils of tobacco.
It seems as long as one is well-groomed, well-educated, confident and courteous I can’t think of an immediate turnoff. Every person has eccentricities.
Why is there a hatred of body hair? All men have it and have more as they age. As long as one is well-groomed, there is no issue. Why is hair on the chest better than hair on the back? It is no different.