Con Man:1. Shirley Ujest's Mother:0.

She was tired at the end of her shopping at the craft store when a kindly jolly old irish man came up to her and peddled his story about being a lonely widower and “how about going for a cup of coffee.”

She wasn’t thinking clearly and figured it would be fine and didn’t really notice that his words of " my number isn’t listed and I’m not in the book." should have struck some kind of nerve. To save time, She gave him her business card that has her home address on it and he would call her later.

A week later, this past Saturday, he showed up at the door. She didn’t remember him but when he said he had been trying to call her and boy she must be busy, blah blah blah, it jogged her memory and like a stooge, she let him in, “Just for a glass of water.”

When she noticed the red two-door car parked infront of her house ( which is illegal) she commented, " You can’t park there, it’s illegal. You’ll have to park across the street…"

" Oh, that isn’t my car. It’s someone waiting for one of your neighbors." She believed him.

They went into the kitchen, she ended up giving him three glasses of water because he was so thirsty and started to prepare the coffee for him. The conversation was stilted. He realized the time, asked to use the bathroom, saw the living room and then hastily departed without much social conversation for a man who was so lonely and starving for attention.

When he left, he got into the very same red car that he said was not his, where a driver was waiting for him and drove off.

She called one neighbor to ask what to do. He said, “Call the cops.”

She called me to tell her tale, making me freeze in my footsteps, " Call the cops."

She calls another neighbor, and he concurs with the rest of us. “Call the cops.”
Mr. Ujest and I drove instantly down because of the panic in her voice that was hidden by the deep embarrassment. She was more worried about the Good Silver and such ( which are not really all that good anyways.) being stolen than for her very life. She was worried about being perceived as a Rich Widow, when she lives, which is possible in some points because she lives in a four bedroom home in a nice established subdivision, but on less thatn 17k a year. That’s below poverty levels for anyone. Trying to tell her that the most Valuable Thing inside the house was Her was ignored.

She assured me that this con man was never alone with her purse, laying open on the kitchen counter in its usual state, and he never got near it. I should have called her on this and had her check it while I was down there. It was when she was preparing for church on Sunday that she noticed that her $100 for the next two weeks, plus the $20 that she always kept hidden for emergency purposes, was missing. She felt like a fool. An idiot. And she had to go down to the police station to finish the Suspicious Person’s report that she filled out the day before with this new information. The police officer was everything that was kind and understanding. Until she discovered the money missing, she was sure we were all misreading the situation and there had to be some reason why he would be so ‘odd’ about his visit.
She has been a widow thirty years this coming Christmas and has had to endure hardships that no parent should ever witness; being told that your four natural born children have a heritidary degenerative muscular disease that will slowly suck their lives away as their body and spirit declines over a horridly long time period. She has faced this three horrored times. It is not any easier as the deaths happens. Watching someone that you love become nothing of what they use to be and never ever have the opportunity to become what they should have been. It becomes more painful. Yet, she has done it with dignity, grace and the Lady that I will never be.
You fucking conman.

You took from my 78 year old mother her peace of mind that her home is her haven. She has never once felt uneasy about coming home or being alone. Though she has massive amount of insecurities, this was not one of them. Until you picked your tired, aging pigeon to shit over.
How easy it must have been for you on Saturday, you felcher. She did all your cues, fell for every line.

You don’t know her life story or how the Fates have continously shat all over my mother for these past decades, and how she has never turned to drugs or liquor ( as 99% of the rest of the populace would in she shitstained shoes) and has never lost her faith and has a sense of humor above it all, but you asshole, she did save the glass you drank from, put it in a ziploc and gave it to the cops.

I don’t know what is more pathetic: a con-man who preys on the elderly or an aging con-man who have learned his lesson and straighted up. You are a patethic waist of life.

If you were scoping out her house for a future robbery, and any harm (accidental or malicous) befalls my mother, I.will.not.rest.until.justice.is.served. You.wanker.
If there is a hell, credents like yourself will have first accomodations there.

Shit.

This was suppose to be a New Thread.

I’m sorry.

Mods! can you move it for me?

Wow, Shirley. Just… Wow.

What shit goes on! At least your mother was smart enough to call someone. She sounds just like my mother - always wanting to believe the best about everyone, and never thinking that Bad People really do exist out there.

Damn, Shirley, how awful! I hope they catch that asshole before he targets someone else.

If someone did that to say, my grandmother, I’d be livid.

Are the police keeping an eye on her house? YMMV, but around here if someone’s going to be out of town, say, or if they’re having problems like the one you’re describing, the police will do a WIP (Watch In Passing), which means they drive by at random times, day and night, and make sure nothing looks weird. Might be worth looking into.

Also, if she doesn’t already have them, motion sensor lights outside and extra deadbolts on all the doors might give her a little extra peace of mind. Again, YMMV, but most police departments are more than happy to come over and walk through your house with you, pointing out potential security hazards and suggesting ways to fix them. Cops would much rather work with people to prevent crimes than have them become victims.

I hope they catch the fucker.

Oh, man. I hate these fuckers. It’s bad enough to try to scam the eldery out of their limited funds. It’s somehow even worse when they don’t even have the balls to try anything more bold, but cowardly taget the grocery money. Keep us updated on the case and good luck to to your mom.

Fuck! I’m seeing red and I don’t even know the woman. I just can’t imagine what you’re feeling. I don’t say it often, but when I do I mean it. E-mail me if you need bail. :slight_smile:

I feel so bad for my mom.

She watched her parents become old and feeble and she now is sure she is there.

I assured her she most certainly isn’t.

Then she decides to do something independant to prove her brain capacity.

She wanted to fill the windsheild washer stuff in her car. She got the hood open ( a first for her on this car!) and then became flustered when she couldn’t find the fill up cap thing. Embarrassed, she bothered the neighbor, who (being a male…at least in her mind that anything with a penis just knows where these things are) found the fill up cap area instantly and did the job for her.

So she is beating herself up and convinced she is ready for The Home.

I have explained to her than none of this would have happened to her had she been a good little senior and just gone to Florida for a few weeks like she is suppose too. I tried to shove her off there now, to visit my aunt, but my mom says she is too feeble to handle the airports.

“Ma,” I says to her in exasperation, " You get the priveledge of being one of those cart people at the airport. I’ll pin a note to your chest stating your flight info and you get to sit on the cart and move at the speed of a beeping sloth and wave like the Pope to the haggard travelers hoofing it. Maybe I’ll put a bib on you for the drool! You’ve earned this right!"

Her self esteem is in the crapper right now and there is no talking to her.
I hate this con man.

Shirley, stop trying to help her and ask for her help on something she knows how or what to do and you don’t. Get others to do the same. There is nothing on earth like being able to help other people because you know more or are more able in some way for boosting your own self-image. Figure out something you need her for and beg her for her help - don’t take no for an answer!

It wouldn’t hurt if someone your age (you?) managed to get yourself mugged or conned or something too. :wink: You don’t have to be elderly to be taken in.

Oy! you are a genius!

I should tell her I need Easter dinner cooked for 45 people. This afternoon.
She’d be all over it like Edward Scissorhands.

Yes, Oy! What an excellent suggestion!

Piss Ant.

I read the thread wrong and thought it said “Con Man: 0. Shirley Ujest’s Mother:1” and was waiting gleefully to read how the bastard got caught.

So sorry about your Mum, Shirley. Glad it wasn’t worse. :frowning:

No, just someone with an 85 year old mom and a 90 year old aunt. (My 80 year old dad doesn’t need the reassurance). I ask their help all the time. Of course, it helps that I actually *need * the help! :eek:

That really pisses me off. Your mom remembers a world where it was safe to speak with a stranger. Nowadays, I don’t hardly make eye contact with anyone in public. I hope she can snap out of this, but it’s gotta be hard to learn to trust your instincts after some asshat shows up at your house. Senior scams just really
make me so angry.

I like the advice about asking her for help on something she is comfortable doing.
That was a great image, Edward Scissorhands fixing up Easter dinner!