Is the retching sound consistent? I’m wondering if he has the world’s worst ringtone.
How does conveying concern or asking is everything okay over there turn into one being a giant asshole. Aren’t you projecting just a teensy bit?
The poster I was responding to wasn’t telling how to “show concern”, they were telling how to passive-agressively harass the person. There was nothing “nice” or “well-meaning” about it.
- Is the other person living in their office?
- Is the other person a dog?
I’m not seeing it. The last sentence reflects a possible practical benefit, but that doesn’t make it passive-aggressive (an over-used term anyway). I think you’re over-reacting.
I’m imagining what the situation might be. If I had a long-term condition that made me retch, I would be perfectly aware of it. I would know the problems that it cause for me and others. And if it was late at night and I thought I had privacy but suddenly had someone showing up to sicksplain to me, there is no other way I would take it but hostile. And that goes with any medical condition. “I can’t help but notice that you are fat. Have you considered doing something about it?” “I noticed you are in a wheelchair—have you tried walking?” You don’t point out to someone something that they already know about themselves unless you are a gigantic douchebag.
Look at the bright side: You aren’t smelling anything.
What’s going on at home that makes vomitguy the better option?
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Why should there be anything? To some of us, a clear separation between our home and our work lives, where home isn’t just another work space, is a big deal.
Eh, I just found it a little odd that the OP is choosing to endure what they describe as “something that makes me want to vomit” and “makes me sick to my stomach” that “happens over and over again” for “close to a year” when there is what I would consider an easy fix.
YMMV.
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Yes, and those are exactly the same kinds of situations. Sure they are.
I was wondering something like that. I know it’s usually the sort of thing you outgrow when you are about 14, but I have met adults who think things like this are funny. I have never actually heard a retching ringtone, but I saw an ad for an uploadable fart ringtone once. IIRC, $1.99.
All that’s heard is retching? it never progresses to actual vomiting?
I once sat in front of a guy during an exam in college when we had assigned seats just for the exam. I had noticed that the guy always sat at one of the tables in the back by himself, and I wondered why. During the exam, he burped several times, albeit, not very loudly. I didn’t speak to him about it-- I finished early and left. But I just assumed he had a delicate stomach, and had attacks like that a lot, and that’s why he sat so isolated.
So maybe the neighbor has some kind of stomach condition that causes a lot of gas, and additionally a weird-sounding burp-- or just a very loud one that sounds like retching once it gets through the wall.
Or, I’m misunderstanding, and this does progress to vomiting, with splashing, and toilets flushing. In that case, I have no idea. But if you ever see carry-out containers in his trash, DON’T order from that place.
I was wondering exactly the same thing. You can definitely get ringtones for just about anything.
That is the proper thing.
Or knocking and making a polite inquiry.
But nothing described sounds like harassment–to me, at least. They didn’t recommend saying mean things to them, nor did they recommend repeated contact. They recommended discussing the issue as a matter of concern, with the side effect that this would let the person know they can be heard, and thus they may choose to do something about it if they can.
Yes, the situation might be uncomfortable if they can’t help it. But the situation is already uncomfortable because the OP is getting nauseated hearing them. Even though it isn’t the neighbor’s fault, somethign they are doing is adversely affecting the OP in a pretty bad way. The OP is lucky they aren’t the type who automatically vomit when they hear vomiting.
Plus there’s the possibility that the neighbor hasn’t actually seen a doctor about this, and a doctor talking to them might motivate to get it checked out. We’re all hesitant to go to the doctor these days due to the pandemic. The last thing I’d want on my conscience would be hearing someone who is in distress, not helping, and then they wind up dying or suffering severe harm due to my inaction.
I just don’t see why you consider merely talking to them as harassment. It may be an uncomfortable conversation, but that’s just a reason to try and find the lease uncomfortable way to address it, not a reason to ignore the issue.
Right could be vomit-guys burner phone that he’s assigned someone a retching ring tone. Now he knows when it’s Deep-throat calling.
I’m thinking he’s making money doing highly specialized videos/webcamming.
You mean he’s making videos of himself vomiting? That’s disgusting!
Having a audio loop of retching noises playing while the office is unoccupied would probably work well as a security system. No one would want to break in and risk slipping on piles of vomit.
… yet…