I’d like to address this. First of all, as noted, several states are “no fault”. Therefore, no lying would be involved. Though I can’t see how that would make a difference considering what reality they’re up against. Talk about apples and oranges.
Second, I can’t imagine anyone could pass judgment on such a harsh and difficult situation. But then again, that’s just me.
Thirdly, the most important thing appears to be that keeping her husband’s medication, care and relative comfort until the end is what should be considered. If they lost their house, how could that “ethical” decision be beneficial in any way to the situation? Would that not just make everything else on top of it worse?
Next, as someone else pointed out, the few luxuries that she mentioned don’t really seem like much in the face of something so huge and devastating. Have you ever been in such a demoralizing circumstance that such a piddly ‘perk’ might help at all? I’ve been through roughly a decade of agoraphobia and more in the way of mental illness and though my husband and I eventually had to file bankruptcy due to my inability to function normally, the internet was my only life-line and contact with society. Without it, suicide certainly would have been infinitely more appealing than it already was. Too bad that you don’t seem to understand the complexities involved. Perhaps that should be thought on more before rendering such opinions.
Last of all, it’s true that many folks have NO options. Sounds to me like they’re in roughly the same position and have found not much alternatives either. I don’t think forfeiting the legalities you’ve chosen to follow with the love of your life is much of a good solution. As a matter of fact, it comes across as extremely dire and a last resort. Furthermore, isn’t the system there in the first place for those who need it? Aren’t the ones “scamming” it those who truly don’t? :mad: Not someone like the poor people enquiring here. I know that, at least, I’d be more than happy to contribute to a system that takes care of those who cannot help themselves when forced in such a fashion, rather than allow them to jump through idiotic hoops to attain basic health care that’s freakin’ overpriced to begin with.
Compassion isn’t restricted only to those who can afford it. There also isn’t a maximum on its generosity, as far as I can tell. Isn’t that why we have social services anyway?
~Kemi, sorry this is so personal but not only have I been there and done that, but I’ve seen it happen to too many who deserve much better -and- shouldn’t be castigated in the process (or stigmatized/demonized). Oh, and godspeed to AuGratin, her husband and all their loved ones. I can’t begin to comprehend how horrible this is all around. Whatever y’all choose, and I would most definitely feel supportive if you opted for divorce out of necessity (one of the greatest acts of love that I could foresee, in my humble opinion), I wish the very best. My heart goes out to you both.