It’s obviously intended to be funny. It’s also a really nasty thing to watch (speaking as a woman) and you didn’t give any indication of that. It violates the “two click” rule at a minimum.
Being funny isn’t a pass for also being disgusting. I’m usually hyper-critical of moderators stepping over the line, but c’mon. That link is a verbal description of extremely graphic sexual content. Of course you were going to get modded.
The link should have followed the two-click rule for misogyny and NSFW language. The miderator’s personal additional opinion of its content is unnecessary.
You don’t like that I called it “gross misogyny”, instead of just “misogyny”? Would you prefer “graphic misogyny”. I don’t know that the two click rule applies to, say, a scholarly article about how men are better than women, or a NYT article that quotes someone saying “fuck”.
Yes. ‘Graphic misogyny’ would be fine, and apt for this case. Miderators should avoid the appearance of subjective mideration. Breaking the link was the correct action whether or not you considered the misogyny to be gross.
Gross: (especially of wrongdoing) very obvious and unacceptable; blatant. “gross human rights abuses”
While at some level everything is a judgement call, i don’t think this was any more subjective a statement than “graphic” would have been. And i think it fits the subject better.
I mildly disagree because it should be obvious it was intended to be funny, but still unacceptable by board standards. But then again that’s just my subjective view of the word ‘gross’. I’ll keep in mind that could be your intention in future mideration.
I took “gross” to mean “blatant”, like “gross misconduct”, or “gross negligence”. I have zero problem with the moderation, since the misogyny was gross in both senses of the word.
I agree with @puzzlegal’s moderation and @Spice_Weasel’s take. I’m not a Cafe mod, and that’s probably a good thing for the OP today. When I looked at the meme, I was appalled at its misogyny. I would probably have issued a warning.
I’m not arguing about the interpretation of misogyny. I don’t think it’s at all subjective in this case. But you seem to think ‘gross’ is subjective so I don’t understand your point. I’m not going to argue @puzzlegal’s usage further, I accept that she meant blatant misogyny which is certainly the case.
You don’t think “the aristocrats” would require a two-click link? I mean, that’s pretty funny (or can be in the right hands) but it’s not something I would inflict on anyone without warning.
The wide-spreadedness of the meme is, of course, both overblown and completely irrelevant. It never ceases to make me chuckle when people who are familiar with something, and their little social group is familiar with that something, and the online sources they frequent are familiar with that thing, thereby think that virtually everyone is familiar with it, all without considering the completely different nature of the audience to whom they are presenting it. The world is a much wider place than is allowed for in one jejune person’s experience. When such a person has sufficient experience in life, that is one of the lessons they will have learned.