First thing first, there has been no death in my family or friends to have caused this thread. It is simply my reaction to seeing how people on Buffy the Vampire Slayer reacted to Buffy’s mom dying. Except for Giles (the adult) and Tara (who had lost her mom when she was 17), they freaked out MAJOR.
[for reference the thread that inspired this MPSIMS was here]
I understand I come from a unique experience. Growing up in a church I was constantly dragged to funeral homes, at least 2-3 times a year. It was either a friend of our family, a family member of someone in the church, or just someone my parents knew. They would take me, my brother, and my sister to funeral homes as they would console the deceased’s family.
I had an uncle die when I was 5, an uncle and aunt die within a week of each other when I was 15, and my grandma died last year. Not to mention I’ve had a second cousin and 3 great uncles die.
I say all that to say this. I’m pretty desenitized to death and the suddeness of losing someone. It no longer has the shock value that it seems to have to much of the population. I’m not saying I don’t cry or feel pain and numbness (you do get both) at someone’s passing, because I do. Instead, death has become part of life’s passage. Part of it should be my Christian mindset, but I know many Christians that are uncomfortable around death. It probably has more to do with my familiarity around death and how it affects people. My experience has allowed me to be a more productive member of society in both coping with personal loss and helping others.
It’s sad that a lot of people never have the oppurtunity that I did. I don’t wish it on anyone but death happens and unfamiliarity by ignoring or downplaying death can be worse. Some of my friends are like this. One friend hadn’t been to a funeral service until he was 29. He still hasn’t completly adjusted to funeral homes and he’s in the ministry where it comes up a lot. He can seem offput by the situation and tries to avoid visiting causing many to wonder where he is when he needs to be supportive.
As the TV program showed, many people can know about death and see death but don’t understand what happens to those left behind. The gang has experienced countless deaths but has never been around to know what happens afterwards. When death finally came for one of their own, they were unprepared.
I’ve never experienced a parent’s or sibling’s death ( hopefully not for a very long time) so I can’t predict what will happen when I do, but I’m confidant that I would be able to handle it better than them. (And yes, I know they’re TV characters but they expressed a lot of the things I know will happen with my friends when they lose a loved one.)
This is a mundane and pointless thread but I wanted to start a topic where I can openly share some of my feelings and frustrations with others. Sorry for the choppy writing and somber tone, but you did open a thread with death in the title.