****whole bean, I think Nava is saying that it doesn’t matter who else her partner is attracted to, male or female – as long as he don’t act on it and cheat. I’m a 41YO straight female who feels the same way.
Complete ditto. I imagine it would be fun to admire the fairer sex with her.
I would have no problem with it.
37, female, straight-ish (I once classified myself as bi till I realized I am only sexually attracted to other women, not emotionally attracted. I wouldn’t date another woman knowing that.)
That would not be any kind of negative for me.
Male, straight, 40. Married to a straight woman.
Right, what I was saying is that, same as it isn’t a problem to be with a guy who looks at other people when the other people happen to be female, it isn’t a problem if he looks at both male and female, so long as it’s “look, don’t touch” (or any touching is approved by me).
20, female, and yeah, it wouldn’t be a problem. Hell, that’s kind of hot. 
Seriously, though, I don’t care who catches his eye as we’re walking down the street, so long as it’s me he’s walking with.
29, increasingly turning more straight bisexual male, married a bisexual woman.
Of course, we’re also polyamorous, so we’re odd all around.
It’s hilarious to brag to my friends that she asks me to take her to the strip club for her birthday, by the by.
I don’t think you know what the word proved means.
In my partner’s case, he also has no preference regarding butch/femme/androgynous characteristics or age/race/weight, etc. He’s the most truly pansexual person I’ve ever met.
Except that there’s more to sexuality than genital arousal. You’d have to be penis-centric to think that Bailey proved anything.
I know I’d want to be in a relationship where my boyfriend said, “I’m really into you, but you just don’t give me a hardon.”
Mid-thirties, straight male. My girlfriend is bi, not a problem to me. She would do the poly thing in some circumstances, but I won’t, so that is off the table - we are committed to each other. Bringing home another girl once in a while for some fun… that is definitely not off the table.
What I would not do is date someone who is just now deciding that their sexuality might not be what they thought. Been there, do not want to go through that drama again.
Look at it this way, Sampiro: there are more heterosexual people in the world than there are homosexual people. Does that mean that any given heterosexual is more likely to be unfaithful than any given homosexual?
IMO, a bisexual woman would be no more or less likely to cheat, so what the heck?
Straight Male, 44.
Well, (49, straight male) when I see another dick in porn, it doesn’t necessarily mar my enjoyment, but it’s because I can focus on imagining my dick getting the attention the depicted dick is getting, not because I’m wishing I was attending to the dick in question.
Gay female, 33. Have dated bisexuals before and would again, no problem.
I don’t think open-minded is the right word. You can be open-minded about the sexuality of your partner, but your own sexuality isn’t the result of such a cognitive process.
That would be off-putting for me too.
A propos of nothing: Care to make fun of Oprah viewers and their enthusiasm for woo, chief?
I will not mock Oprah viewers, as two women I am very fond of watch her show.
I will, however, call Oprah a dangerous, cyncical, untrustworthy, manipulative, vile, obscurantist, self-aggrandizing, arrogant harridan. The fact that she has done good work in South Africa makes it all the more astonishing that her net effect on the world is to its detriment.
It’s possible for someone to respond more to one gender with his dick, and respond more to another gender in other ways. I’ve known men who were total bottoms with men, then went home and “topped” their wives. Sexuality can be complex, and doesn’t always involved a penis. (And I don’t know whether a comparable study was done with women.)
49, straight female, several divorces.
Wouldn’t bother me. Not at all.