The ring thing is highly overrated. Yeah, jewelers will take back “romantic gestures”, but it ain’t free folks. They’re in business, okay?
And women, it’s asking a whole hell of lot to expect a guy to not only know your ring size (I don’t know my *own<i/> ring size) much less romantic overtones.
The intent matters; the veils, flowers, chichi stuff is just marketing hoopla, IMO. This is from someone who has a diamond ring with no meaning. I’d much preferred a chance to choose a plain band w/ an inscription, a small pearl or jade engagement band to the marketing hoopla.
Why don’t you try Christmas shopping, and steer your sweetie into a jewelry store by “impulse”? Ask to see engagement rings. And then watch the love of your life melt.
Or propose first, and the sentiment matters, the trappings don’t! and then go ring shopping together. You’ll be wearing them for a long time. Rings are symbols. Choose them together. Marriage is the definition of “mutual”.
Speak your heart. The rest will follow.
Sentimental in spite of herself,