Alone of all respondants I’lll say don’t play up the military thing - don’t put uniform pictures up, etc. That’s probably because I’m in Columbia, SC, and prowling the personals is an exercise in “another damned Army guy”, of which there are, er, many. But if you’re looking for someone in your area, and your area has a base, odds are that you’re one of a billion and a half military guys desperately seeking females. It’s the opposite of standing out in a crowd. I’m not saying don’t mention it, I’m just suggesting that you might not want to play it up as much as people are telling you to. YMMV.
Gen-you-wine female checking in.
I liked your ad. The picture didn’t show up as too dark for me. If I were you, I’d put your story about where you got the pic in the ad - that’s a good story!
Deep Throat reference is fine! I wasn’t turned off at all by it - c’mon, the question is “What’s your favorite on-screen sex scene?” Not love, not romance, SEX. You might be risking offending females that are offended by porn, but do you really want to date one o’ them to begin with?
I read the statement about the cute face and personality as “looks are somewhat important but not everything; personality is #1”; “cute” doesn’t imply “supermodel.”
Overall, your ad comes across like a real person, looking for a real person. You seem like a nice guy. If I were looking, I’d probably respond to this ad.
I’m going to be vicious. I apologize in advance…
What I got out of your profile is that you like to smoke and drink, and that you have no idea what you want from a woman.
Not exactly the kind of guy most girls are looking for.
First off, you need to figure out for yourself what you want from this. To me, it seems like with such wide open preferences and vague descriptions, that you are looking for sex. When your only criterea is “vaugely young female” it sends a certain messege. Thats cool, but if thats what you want, come right out and say it. There are plenty of women that want the same thing. You are merely going to look sleezy and untrustworthy by being coy about it.
If you want more than a hookup, “friendship, play and dating” is too vague. Do you want someone to stay up all night talking with? Someone to go out drinking and dancing with? A great buddy to go hiking with? And what order is that in? Are you interested in the “play” first? Or do you want a friendship that may develop in to more. Right now it says “Any contact with female, hopefully one that involves sex”.
What do you do in the Air Force? Are you a mechanic? a pilot? a cook? The way you put it makes it sound like you are just another drone, and that you have no interest in your job (if thats true, thats cool, but make that more clear…it could make you more interesting a character).
You are too flip in your “humble” and “lie” answers. Makes you seem smug, and maybe like you’ve got something to hide. This is a great chance to tell a story- about when you visited the third world and realzied what true poverty was like, or the time you stole your mom’s car and crashed it in the lake and said the dog did it…whatever. Remember, you are selling yourself here. You are convinceing these people to take a closer look. You’ve got to take every chance you can to give them a reason to. Can you imagine a going on a date with someone that says “heh heh, I’ll let you know” when you try to get him to tell stories about his life and who he is?
I want to know why you like Deep Throat and Tainted Love. Maybe you watched Deep Throat for the first time when you were 15 by using a fake id in the video store and you havn’t ever gotten over it. Maybe you like to dance to Tainted Love. I don’t know. But your answers aren’t unique enough to speak for themselves. Your going to have to explain your choices a bit. You want the girl reading this to get a bit worked up by the idea of watched Deep Throat and listening to Tainted Love with you. Paint a picture.
There is nothing wrong with the items you can’t live without or the stuff in your room, but it makes you sound like the world’s most generic male. I think most guys your age have plenty of liquor, cigarettes and gadgets. Most girls don’t want to lounge around an empty apartment full of cigarette packs and empty bottles with a cheap fish sculpture hanging from a hook in the ceiling listening to some guy go off about the GPS unit he bought for his car. This is an image of a guy that doesn’t have a lot of contact with women, doesn’t really know what to do with them, and likely is only really interested in one thing. If thats true, mention how much fun the two of you can have in the back of your car with some of the liquor and maybe the empty bottle. If it’s not, try to come up with a setting that sounds like someplace a girl might actually want to be and some items that step out of the “man show” stereotype.
I hate to say it, but American Origional sounds like a jeans commercial. It might work if you gave some evidence for it, but a guy in the military that likes smoking, drinking, cars, and porn isn’t that origional at all. And frankly at this point I don’t want to find out why. This ad is supposed to be your chance to tell me why. Do it.
Finally, once again, you need some indications of what you want. Don’t be afraid of scaring some women off. It’s better than scaring them all off by making them think that you don’t even care what your screwing as long as it’s face isn’t too horrible to look at.
I just want to clarify that this isn’t what I think you are actually like, this is just what your ad says to me.
Eh, fuck it. It’s gone now. I might put up another one, sometime.
The stuff at the beginning is often check boxes and radio buttons, FYI - he can’t elaborate on “friendship, play”, whatever.
Although, personally, it sounds sleazy not to put the “relationship” option on that choice. I mean, if that’s what you’re looking for… but I wouldn’t sleep with you if I knew you had absolutely no intention whatsoever of sticking around, even if I otherwise might have not wanted a relationship.
So even if you don’t want a relationship, you won’t sleep with a guy if you know that he doesn’t want a relationship? :dubious:
I’d rather not see ‘relationship’ as an option if that’s not what the guy wants. Profiles only work if the people filling them out are honest. I deliberately don’t check the ‘friendship’ option when I do the online dating thing, because that’s not why I’m there. Doesn’t keep some guys from getting their feelings hurt, though (wusses 
), which is one of the reasons that I very rarely do the online dating thing anymore.
Well, yeah, I don’t want to look cheap. 
It just makes you look sleazy. It means you absolutely see me as nothing but a sex object, while putting the “LTR” button means you’d consider it if it came up. I mean, wouldn’t he? If he met the most wonderful sexiest nicest funniest woman in the world who also cooks and sews? (Sorry, guys, no more than 50 miles from my current location and that is a firm rule.)
I want to know this: where is the “hot monkey love” option?
I dunno, I guess I don’t see anything wrong with a guy seeing a woman as nothing but a sex object. Goodness knows I’ve felt that way about certain men once or twice. As long as he’s honest about it and everyone knows what they’re getting into, what’s the harm? I think it’s possible to know before you even meet someone that you’re not interested in a long-term relationship. I mean, sure, sometimes romantic sparks fly when no one was looking for them, but those situations are pretty rare. So if you’re just out for a few dates and some fun, I don’t think it’s wrong to say so.
Well, apparently it’s the same as not checking the ‘relationship’ option.
I can go on now since you’ve cleared that one up for me, Misnomer. 
My job is done here.