*Cry* Tell me moving will eventually end!

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Please!

I’m so happy for this move but good lord is there so much shit to do and no time to do it in. Please forgive the stream of consciousness rambling. Here’s everything we’re going through right now:

We’re moving from Rochester, NY to Seattle, WA. I could leave it there, but I’ll go on.

My husband got a job with a large company there that is paying for our relocation. Some things they buy, some things we’re reimbursed for. We’ve still got to organize our budget to deal with expenses until we get reimbursed. This includes paying: two months rent at our current apartment to break the lease, getting a rental car here for 4 days after they ship our car, dealing with a lovely notice from the IRS that my husband owes NY state $350 from 2004–perfect timing there, getting a rental car for a few days in Seattle which we’ll be reimbursed for, and putting down a deposit and first month’s rent on an apartment during the month of September.

He gets his first paycheck on Sept. 30th. It will be quite nice–and include a signing bonus–but until then we’re dangerously close to needing a short-term loan. Did I mention that his HUGE student loan payments are due on the 5th of Sept? And that our credit card is nearly maxed out and we’ve been planning on using the signing bonus to completely get rid of it–and we have another one, but we don’t want to add to its balance so we can get rid of our “bad” debt? And that it’s not like most places would take credit for rent anyway? And that his parents have offered us an interest free loan until October (without us asking) but I’m stubborn about not wanting to take it? ETA: re: our credit, we have two cards. One has a 0 balance, one has a cough cough too high balance that we’ve been beating back gradually. We were really looking forward to destroying it entirely.

And we still need to sell our washer and dryer. Hey, anybody in Rochester wanna buy a two year old washer and dryer set? (Mods: I’m kidding. Hope that doesn’t violate any rules. Of course…if someone does, that would be nice too.)

My brother-in-law (who rooms with us and is moving to Seattle as well to start school & be our roommate for one more year before we kick his ass out :stuck_out_tongue: ) had his debit card # stolen somehow (he still had the card in his possession) and got about $300 stolen from his account before it was caught. He’ll get his money back, but now he’s stressed, of course.

After getting all our stuff into Seattle and storage, we’ve still got to find a rental place there and move it from storage to the new place within a month. (We’ve got temporary housing during that time.) Great help, but another thing to deal with–we’ll have moved, but we won’t really be moved.

And I had to go on a business trip all last wek (to Seattle–ha!) and while I learned a lot, that put me behind at work, where I was already behind because a month ago I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. I’ve been trying to get back up to snuff with concentrating on my work–and I’ve been doing pretty well so far. But I just got a call from my supervisor this morning and he said that since my performance and responsibility have basically sucked lately (in much nicer words) they wanted me to stop all work on the project I’ve been put in charge of for the next three weeks until I get moved and settled and can refocus. Very generous and reasonable of them, and I do appreciate the drop in stress from work, but that income would have been nice right now.

And we’ve got movers coming tomorrow into my house and they’re going to be touching all my stuff and not packing it the way I would.

And my husband has been an absolute saint through all this, and has been shouldering the burden of so much–in addition to supporting me through ups and downs in my anxiety–but we still had an argument this morning about how little has gotten done so far. I felt like such a bitch, and we made up, but still.

I’ve got to see if I can get a P.O. box over the phone. I’ve got to go to the bank and deposit two paychecks and cash from selling our TV. I’ve got to mail out my estimated tax payment on Sept 15.

I’m having a quarter life crisis because I’m turning 25 in two weeks.

I’ve got to find new doctors in Seattle and leave behind those that I like here. My current medical insurance is being a bitch about paying my psychologist, and I need to call them and tell them that I have, in fact, paid my deductable for in-network providers, so pay the damn bill already. I’ve never lived in the Pacific time zone. What if we don’t find an apartment we can afford in a good neighborhood?

In short: I’m losing my mind here!

And I’m procrastinating on the Dope right now instead of doing a damn thing. Hey, I just booked a rental car! That’s one thing… When we first started this whole process, I told them both that “We’re all gonna lose our shit at some point. We need to just accept it and prepare for it and try to be patient.” Then we had a “go-team!” moment–but I fear it is coming true.

I know I’ve got lots to be grateful for–and I really, really am. We’re all just about at the breaking point. Please tell me that one day, soon, we’ll be settled in and everything will be perfect? Thank you.

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I read part and skimmed the rest because some of it was just too familiar and painful. So I can say this: it will end. Eventually the home you are in now will be empty and your life will be in boxes and you can start new in a new city.

Make a list, cross things off as they get done, and take it one thing at a time.

Good luck. It does end.

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Thank you–really.

I’m sorry for writing a novel, too–I’m not really traumatized or anything. In fact, I’m feeling as level headed as I have in months right now. There’s just SO much to keep track of that I felt like my brain was overflowing–so I let it overflow here. Thanks for reading it. :slight_smile:

ETA: also, quarter life crisis is really an overly dramatic description. It’s just another thing on my mind–holy crap, how am I 25 already?! That’s a quarter of a century!

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Give away the washer and dryer. Do it now. Post a craigslist ad and give it away to the first person who shows up with a truck.
Take that stress right out of the move.

BTW, I’m moving on Friday from Dallas to Phoenix. :smiley: I’m also giving away my 8 year old washer and dryer on Wednesday.

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God I hate moving!

Wishing you luck to get through this!

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I am worn out just READING what you have to do!

Remember…what doesnt kill ya just makes ya meaner :slight_smile:

Here a hopefully helpful hint…

And there are currently and have been in the past threads on this forum regarding pack rats and hoarders…

This is a PERFECT opportunity to get rid of all the useless and redundant CRAP in your life.

You DONT need three eggbeaters…one will do

You DONT need your high school clothes…particularly if they dont fit anymore

You DONT need old reciepts and paperwork…

You DONT need rundown funiture (unless you are actually using it) that you couldnt GIVE away.

Sell, give away, or throw away all that stuff you’ll never need, never use, or has no value NOW.

You sound stressed out (rightfully so)…if you have never done it, you’ll be amazed at how “freeing” it is to get rid of crap…particularly crap that keeps “reminding you” its there and waiting (for god knows what…)

Good Luck!

Blll

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Oh, I looooooooooove throwing stuff away. (My family is full of hoarders.) In fact, I’m going to go do some of that right after I finish this post.

The washer and dryer–it’s starting to look like we’ll have to give them away, but I’d hate to because they’re only 2 years old and I could easily get a couple hundred for them. But you gotta do what you gotta do.

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Don’t try to do all the packing that the movers aren’t doing (our movers wouldn’t pack our books, for example) in one sitting. Space it out over several days.

Same goes for unpacking at the other end. Obviously you’ll have to get the stuff you need out right away, but a lot of the other stuff can wait. Winter clothes can wait a while at this point, for example. It doesn’t make you a bad person to still have non-essential stuff in moving boxes several months later (at least, I really hope it doesn’t).

Don’t pack too much heavy stuff (like books) into one box. Make sure the packed box is still light enough for you to lift. Fill in the empty space with things like clothes.

You can probably get suitable boxes at your local liquor store, or maybe at the grocery store if your grocery store sells wine or liquor.

Before you get there, find out where the nearest grocery store to your new place is. You’ll need food, toilet paper, and paper towels right away. Knowing where a hardware store is wouldn’t be a bad idea, either.

Having some cold bottled water to offer the movers is nice, and nice to have around for you, too- everything to do with moving boxes is thirsty work. Even if you don’t get bottled water, be sure to have something to drink tap water from while you’re working- you will sweat during the process, and will need to stay hydrated. A washed out empty soda bottle for each of you would do, or at least be better than waiting until your cups or glasses are unpacked.

Everything won’t be perfect. But you will be settled in, it will be a lot better than it is now, and it will be OK.

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you are moving into a very hip and fun city. there will be less snow.

things will work out. and hopefully y’all will like the new jobs.

the pacific time zone is odd, esp. going from east coast to pacific. you will feel like you are getting the joke 3 hours after everyone else. it will take a while to get over that.

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Moving thread from IMHO to MPSIMS.