My head is spinning. I just finished reading that kind thread by Jeremy’s Evil Twin ( http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=62837&pagenumber=1 ), yet I had nothing new or intelligent to add to it.
I had a number of other inspirations (I’m not sure if it’s the right word). I’m readnig Valis now, by Philip K. Dick, which isn’t a good idea if you’re in a fragile state of mind.
Nor is it a good idea to be reading the Maxx comics, but maybe I’m trying to find something.
In the Maxx comics, you get to see what happened to Mr. Gone, why he ended up hurting all those women, and it’s very sad. Makes you feel bad for him. Doesn’t excuse him, but somehow- you understand.
My question, which I think might end up being other people’s opinions is this:
I fear over people who have been abused. They often have no place to put that shame and anger and hate. They end up becoming abusers themselves. What if you don’t want this to happen, and yet you find yourself behaving in ways that you swore you would never…
Other than therapy, are there other ways to make it stop? Is there some kind of guarantee that you will not become an abuser yourself? Or a self-abuser?
I’m sure that not EVERYONE ends up hurting others because they have been hurt. How do they channel all the hate then?