I know this topic is old, but here goes. Good friend (or thought so, 3+ yrs). Relied on you. You helped them because you wanted to and thought they appreciated it. And yes, something more than friendship happened. Then they do something so shitty that you never want to see them again and try to erase it all. How does one recover. All advice welcomed.
You don’t.
You can’t go back to what you had and you can’t forget what happened. You just have to keep telling yourself to accept it and move on.
Eventually, over time, the pain dulls.
Thanks garius. That is exactly what I hope to do.
The pain of betrayal dulls.
YOu move on.
You learn from this.
Keep busy and try not to be bitter and try not to take it out on the next new friend you meet.
Man I’ve been through that, either don’t speak to them for a while, and go back and forget it, or just be their mate and move on
Or don’t speak to them at all…
I hate mates who do what the OP described because when you don’t wanna associate with them anymore they seem to be hurt, then you feel guilty, ands that a factor in my view that holds people back.
This is the most important thing: Stop dwelling on it. I don’t know if you are or not, but just the fact that you registered just to post about it makes me suspect you might be.
I know, I know, that’s a hell of alot easier said than done.
Thanks again. Yeah, the first question was “Do you hate me” That’s seem so narcistic but I guess its the nature of the being. No, I will not speak to him again. It was that bad.
Yeah lori, I registered to post. I surf here but forgot my login. I am dwelling on it, but only today. I have a busy day tomorrow and a really fun evening planned. I’m not circling the drain. I was just interested in how others deal with it, the betrayal part as Shirley mentioned.