Thanks for responding.
So the issue is by choosing the label “asshole” and “assholish”, it changes the subtext in a way that a description of the behavior as “rude” or “tacky” wouldn’t. But because the post cited was from this board, that automatically makes the source a board member, so any characterization turning towards “assholish” aims the thread at the proscribed attacks on board members.
Thanks for clarification.