Too hard to type right now, details later, 85 years old, last 2 years were hard due to complications from advanced chronic Lyme disease that went undiagnosed for two years, and misdiagnosed as “mild Parkinson’s”
Miss ya, Dad, thanks for everything
Since I’m an Athiest, I can see him on an honored journey to Sto-Vo-Kor, or Valhalla
It’s been almost exactly twelve years since my father left (in his case, at 89). Like yours, his last few years were very difficult due to a degenerative muscular syndrome.
I think of him frequently, and when I do, this (with a one word substitution) usually comes to mind. While it is religiously themed at heart, there may be enough other references to give you something to reflect on, and perhaps take comfort from.
Please don’t take this the wrong way, I’m going to be blunt here
“God” is not welcome in this thread, keep any and all religious drivel out of this thread, any other thoughts of sympathy and comfort are welcome, but “god” is not welcome in this thread
Seeing what dad had to go through, TEN MONTHS of incompetent, criminally negligent “care” from Big Medical, well, lets just say that if I wasn’t an Athiest already, this experience would have made me one
There is no god, god does not exist, keep religious drivel out of this thread
I’ll detail what Dad went through over his ten miserable months when I have had time to sit down and think, collect my thoughts and get them typed out
It does get easier with time, but losing a parent is always going to hurt. My mother and mother-in-law both died three years ago, three months apart, and my husband and I still miss them every day. With time, it does get easier to remember better times rather than the circumstances around their deaths.
I’m so sorry for your loss, and so sorry that the misdiagnosis made it that much harder. I hope you’ve got family and friends around to help you through, but you’ve always got us Dopers if you need us.
Sucks, MacTech. It’s the normal order of things that a person’s parents die before they do, but that doesn’t make it any easier. If he made it to 85 years that’s a pretty good run, even if the last two were difficult; I’m glad you got that much time with him.
MacTech I’m so sorry for your loss. You, your family and your dad are in my thoughts. Losing a parent is always tough no matter how old you are or how old the parent is at the time of his/her death. I lost my father nine years ago and still miss him terribly.