Dangit I want to be pregnant!

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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My husband and I got married last December, we’ve been trying ever since. And I’m tired of waiting! C’mon, ovaries, start kickin’ out some eggses! Right now my face is breaking out like I just hit puberty and my breasts are swollen and painful. I know this means a hormonal overload, but my husband keeps saying, “Maybe you’re pregnant”. I won’t know for another couple weeks, because my period’s not due til the middle of July.

I’m afraid to hope or wonder. A couple months ago, I was 3 weeks late, and when it turned out I wasn’t pregnant, I was DEVASTATED. You see, I have always loved babies and children. My best friend says, “If there’s a baby in the room, you can bet that moggy will be holding it.” In Health Class, in high school, when we did the unit on reproduction and had to watch a video of a woman giving birth, everyone in the class was like, “Eeeeew, gross!”, and I’m the only one sitting there with a tear in my eye saying, “Isn’t that beautiful! <snif>” I have never had career ambitions, never wanted to ‘climb up the corporate ladder’ or anything. I have always just wanted to be a mom.

I know it’s only been 6 months since we started trying. I know that some people try for years and aren’t successful. I’m just frustrated, and trying not to worry. I’m hypothyroid, and I’ve read that sometimes if it’s undertreated, it can cause a woman to stop ovulating. I’m praying that that hasn’t happened to me. My thyroid levels have never stayed normal for very long- I’ve spent the past year going to the doctor every 6 weeks, getting a blood test, and then adjusting my medication. I’ve done the counting thing, you know, “Ovulation occurs between the ninth and fifteenth day of a woman’s menstrual cycle.” So it’s been, “Honey, it’s the ninth day of my cycle, let’s go make a baby!” I know, I know, real romantic. I’ve just started to take my temperature in the morning so that I can use that to tell when I’m ovulating- but boy is it hard to lay there and wait for the thermometer to beep when I’ve REALLY got to go pee!

This is really a rant, sorry, but I’m just tired of waiting! I’m the only one of my friends who is actually looking forward to the experience of being pregnant! I guess I’m looking for some reassurance from other moms out there that “it just takes time”. (Maybe I’m so frustrated because I’m moody because I’m pregnant? One can only hope…) Say a prayer to your local fertility god/goddess for me!

                Hormonally Challenged, moggy
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Maybe I’m just being stupid, but can’t you take a pregnancy test now, rather than wait the couple weeks till you see if you’re late or not?

That said, all the best to you!

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My wife and I went through several years of challenges, but now have two wonderful kids. It was worth it. Hang in there.

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Sorry to hear about your ttc problems moggy…

Have you checked out any online forums with people in a similar boat?

There are several fertility forums at

http://www.babycenter.com/bbs

also http://www.storknet.com has a message board called “The Waiting Game”

Sometimes having another empathetic soul can help.

Good luck!

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BeagleDave, thanks for the links. I just visited the babycenter one and it looks good!

Rasa, apparently it can take about a week for pregnancy to occur- the egg gets released, then it has to be fertilized by the sperm, then the fertilized egg has to make its way down the fallopian tube and implant in the uterine wall. I know, TMI. Sorry. I don’t want to take a pregnancy test yet in case it’s too early, and I’m scared of being disappointed.

Thanks for all your support!

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I assume you’ve already adopted as your bible “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” by Teri Weschler? Heard nothing but good things about it.

Good luck–hang in there.

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I’m only 19 now, but i do have an inkling of how you must feel. Like you, i was the girl saying, “That’s beautiful! I can’t wait for it to happen to me!” There is nothing more important to me than having a child, and going through pregnancy and childbirth just strikes me as a beautiful, amazing phenomenon. I am actually considering becoming an OB/GYN just because it fascinates me so. Reading your post, i felt like we may be kindred spirits in that respect, and i wish you the very best of luck!

keeps her fingers crossed for you
ps- two of my favourite sites are http://www.momsonline.com and http://www.babynamer.com

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{{{moggy}}}

PD and DH (her husband, my father) were married in June of 1979. I was born in 1981. They had a baby before me, I think in 1980, who died at 3 mos in utero. It was a long time coming on their end.

Good luck.

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Do you know how anxious you sound? My gosh, you are in such a state that I’m amazed that you haven’t had a heart attack, let alone be able to get pregnant. You are putting so much pressure on yourself and your poor husband to perform that it is probably causing it not to happen.

My wife and I went a year and a half not even trying to have a baby. People thought we were having problems. Our folks were getting nervous, so we thought “O.K. we’ll try.” And it happened. My point is that we weren’t putting ourselves under pressure. It was a big deal in the end, but it wasn’t at the time. Hang loose and enjoy your time together. Let me tell you that once you have kids the next 20 some years are different (each one). So lay back and enjoy it (pun intended). Let nature take her course in her own time. You will be great parents that is for sure.

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Best of luck to you.

Try http://www.fertilethoughts.net
There’s lots of bulliten boards there that ofer support for all SORTS of different fertility related issues.

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Take it from someone who took an unconscionably long time getting preggers the first time–you need something to nurture, then you’ll relax, then your hormones can kick in. Stress can inhibit ovulation.

Get a puppy. Seriously. A kitten won’t work as well, because they’re so independent so fast, but an 8 to 10 week old puppy is perfect.

What’s really perfect is to borrow the puppy from somebody, then when the baby is born, hand the dog back. Got any relatives with pregnant dogs? :smiley:

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Moggy there’s no research which shows definitively that stress can prevent ovulation and pregnancy. I’ve got a shocking obstetric history :frowning: and I went through stress like you wouldn’t believe. By my 12th pregnancy, you could scrape me off the ceiling.

I know what it is like to really really want a baby but 6 months is not statistically significant. have you talked to the doctor about the thyroid issues? I’ll second the recommendation of Weschler’s book, it is excellent.

Just don’t stress yourself out trying not to stress about pregnancy. You won’t lose a baby because you are worried unless it was a barely viable conception in the first place.

Good luck!

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WEll, I adopted my kids and never read that book :smiley: Good luck, don’t listen to anyone as though they have all the answers. Shop around, sift info. I’m sure Cranky’s book is excellent, I mean no slam…

…after 4 1/2 years of trying to concieve, we learned that there are many answers.

Cartooniverse

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Thanks for all your words of advice and reassurance. Yes, I’ve gotten ‘Taking Charge of Your Fertility’ out of the library before, and I’m going to buy it ASAP. It’s a great book.

Yes kniz, I realize I’m dithering. I realize I’m stressing needlessly. I’m better today- I had some caffeine yesterday and maybe that made me more spazzy than usual. I try not to drink much caffeine any more, because I read that it can contribute to infertility (plus it’s not good for the fetus), so I guess I’m not used to it as much. Plus I’m a Worry Wart from a long time back.

::deep breath:: I will remain calm. I will not stress out. I will spend more time soaking in a warm bath and doing other relaxing things…

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There is one surefire way to get pregnant quickly. Commit to some expensive indulgence that involves years of payments and that responsible parents to be would never buy, ie an expensive two seater sports car, a high end ski-doo, a new Harley etc. etc. The instant the paperwork is complete and irrevocable egg and sperm will fuse in glorious union.

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Take B complex supplements and have sex as often as possible. Worked for me–and I was 37 at the time and hypothyroid as well.

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I was going to introduce you to Old Sweaty Dick but it seems you have one…so to speak. :smiley:

Best of luck to you and the Mister. It’s been known to happen that when a couple stops trying so hard and ceases to be anxious that they ‘catch’. Usually immediately after the adoption is final.

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Home pregnancy tests check for human chorionic gonadotropin, a hormone produced by the placenta to stimulate the corpus luteum into continuing to produce progesterone. The luteum will produce progesterone without any stimulation until normal menstration. In fact, the ceasing of progesterone production is what causes menstration. So, HCG isn’t really needed until around the time of your period, and before that time it is unlikely that a home pregnancy test will detect it.

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Another “Hang In There”

My brother and SIL tried for a several years without success. They went to a few doctors, until one nearly brought SIL to tears by callously telling her to forget it.

Wouldn’t you know it, they conceived shortly thereafter and I now have a couple of great nephews.

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That’s a myth actually. When populations of parents who adopt and parents who don’t adopt are compared, then the conception rate is roughly the same. Adoption’s no miracle cure for infertility. It’s another path to parenthood but it won’t help you get pregnant.

Trying hard and being anxious will not interfere with conceiving or carrying a baby unless the foetus was barely viable.

Moggy, what you are bound to encounter is every old wives or old husband’s tales on your path to pregnancy ;). You might want to consider taking what seems useful and discard the rest. I found people telling me that stress interfered with conception to be waaaaaay more stressful than choosing to ignore them.