In my experience, but I am a guy, if I were to ask those questions, seem that unsure of myself, I would probably still be a virgin.
Date rape, by my definition, and feel free to disagree, is two people, out on a ‘date’ or otherwise going together into one of their bedrooms (usually a bedroom) consentually. Now, if the girl says no, and he forces himself on her and it isn’t some pre-arranged freakiness, I would call that date rape, punishable as rape. If the woman let’s herself get too drunk to say no, but stays conscious through the event … even without said or intended consent, I don’t think she has any case whatsoever. If she passes out… I don’t know that this would qualify as ‘rape’ but certainly a sexual assault of some kind, and definately a bit of a psyche problem on the man’s side.
Second thoughts the morning after does not a rape make.
Now, IMHO, if a woman asks me up to her bedroom after a hot, been sucking face, and having a great time night, she should probably expect me to make a sexual advance on her. However, if she says, beyond a whispered ‘no, we shouldn’t be doing this’ during the progression of actions, or I am required to become physical, that is a no-no. Many women say no during the negotiations of sex to hold out that ‘pure’ image they want to portray. Women, at least in my day, were still trapped in the slut or virgin categorization. But I don’t think there is anything wrong with continuing to try to persuade after a ‘no’. If she really means ‘no’ you can interpret pretty easily.
I think there is a ‘No’ (you are doing it wrong, try again)
and a ‘NO!’ (I don’t want to have sex with you.)