A little history - In late March, when I had surgery on my jaw, my wonderful roommate came with me to the hospital. In the course of the time I spent there, she met my surgical “team” including the doc I see now on a weekly basis for check-ups.
The issue - This particular doc isn’t really a “small-talk” kind of guy, so it surprises me EVERY week when he asks about my roommate and what she’s up to. Then talks about how I have cool friends and I’m cool myself. Yes, he used the word cool. So, I’m around 95% sure he’s interested in my roommate but he wont come out and just ask for her number. My roommate thinks he’s “cool” too. However, as much as I want to pass on the number - I keep thinking how awful it would be if she and the doc didnt work out. I have to see him ALL the time. And if something went wrong, would I want him to re-operate?
She wants me to push it with him for her - who am I to stand in the way of the American dream, right? Any suggestions? If not, thanks for letting me ramble.
Have you spoken with your roommate to see if her thinking the doctor is “cool” extends to wanting to see him socially? If so, what’s stopping her from calling him if she’s interested? That way you’re out of the mix completely regarding their potential romantic entanglement.
How much longer is your course of treatment that you need weekly check-ups? If it’s a relatively short time, can they wait until after you’re done before dating?
I go to bi-weekly visits now for a month. Then monthly for a year. So, there are quite a few more visits scheduled.
She definitely would like to see him socially (which is why she wants me to do something). Unfortunately, while she usually is the most outgoing person I know - when it comes to men, she is tied with me for the biggest chicken position. I had to bribe her with drinks the last time she saw a guy she liked and wouldn’t talk to him…maybe that will work again?
I say hook 'em up. I doubt a doctor would be immature enough to be rough with YOU just because he gets a leg up into a relationship that turns sour. If it turns sour at all.
