So how is the relationship going? I’m quite curious about this one.
Checks user name. Yup. Because a statement like that means I’m slamming all women. Gotcha. I’ll remember that about you.
I wish you well in your relationship. Cocaine use doesn’t concern me so much as the consequences of fucking someone who has the potential to perform a major walletectomy on you.
What is your motivation when you ask this question? Seriously. You must have some doubts and you’re looking for anecdotal evidence to quell them.
You sound just like me when I was dating the alcoholic (he had two felony convictions in his past for drug use/sales but he was off drugs now… except for the one time…but I digress).
I asked everyone and read everything. Just like you, I went on message boards and asked the same question you’re asking. I went to alanon and found out that, indeed, people (women, mostly) were in long, long marriages to active alcoholics. So, yeah, some people stick it out.
I know you’re not asking about marriage, but if you’re wondering about even a short term relationship with her, I repeat, what is your motivation for asking the question? Permission? Reassurance? Something to dampen your fear? Can’t you give YOURSELF permission, reassurance, and strength to overcome your fear? If not, why not? Listen to what’s behind the question, and you’ll find your answer with no help from the SDMB.
Epilog (apologies to Quinn Martin): I stuck it out for almost six years with the guy then I broke up with him. He had stopped drinking, but he still had the addict’s personality, which is self-centered, angry, touchy.
Did it take you a whole month for you to come up with that?
If you don’t want me saying that your comments are misogynistic, you could try not saying misogynistic things. Asserting that every woman who has even used cocaine whores herself out for drugs qualifies as misogynistic in my book. If you don’t like that, the pit is down the hall, and we can continue this discussion there.
I made no such assertion. This assumption is yours and you can stop putting words in my mouth and then being offended by them.
And now that the OP’s been banned (suicide by mod, it appears), we’ll never know if theirs is the greatest love story since cocaine and Eric Clapton and George Harrison’s wife.
Ok, maybe I’m reading you wrong. Can you then please clarify what you meant by the following statement?
Damnit… I even PM’d him and as of 5/22 he said he was still seeing her and planning to eventually update the thread. Didn’t really give any more details than that though.