I’m pretty crazy aboot this chick though, that I can tell you!!!
Thats my ultimate goal. I want my affection for her to outgrow this stupid stuff.
This may sound silly, but I am of the opinion that when you need to turn to drugs there is something missing in your life. Something inside you is hurting, and you’re trying to shut it off.
Its basically self-medication
Yes… or just fun. I don’t need to drink wine to self medicate, but I enjoy it quite a lot.
Better living through chemistry 
Perhaps I’m an uptight prude, but I don’t want to be around anyone who regularly uses illegal drugs, if I can help it.
Fine, if it works for you. We all have dealbreakers, and you can pick yours. One thing I’ve learned here at the SDMB, there is a wide variety of views out there.
I see it as a red flag but not a deal breaker. A red flag to me means that I stay a little more aware and look for odd behaviors. From my experience which is substantial when you start hearing little excuses for being broke or being late etc. They tend to be telling you a problem exists.
^ QFT
…and this isn’t advice for the OP… he can do what he wants… but I never want to be in the same home, let alone the same room, with anyone with cocaine.
What they have to live for / lose is up to them but they can go pound the Empire State Building up their ass before they can put me, mine, my home, my car, my license, or my clean record in jeopardy.
Have you bought a house yet?
Based on online tables calculating blood alcohol for a 120-pound woman who drinks three glasses of wine over an hour’s time, her BAC would be well over the legal limit in many states (.095). And that’s not figuring in potential long-term health consequences, or the possibility of intake increasing over time.
So I’d be concerned for that person, not to mention repercussions affecting me as well.
I am pretty sure though that adults who get stopped by the police and are found to have a sealed bottle of wine in their possession don’t get busted - which is not the case for cocaine.
If “drinking twice a week” meant she was getting shitfaced, passing-out drunk, yes, it would. Or at least it should.
This can also be an addiction.
No. And I’m putting it on hold for now because there’s a major condo shortage downtown Toronto
Why are you treating “an evening” as “one hour”, though? I’d assume “an evening” would generally be “3-5 hours”.
Also, the average weight for a Canadian woman is 155lbs. (American women over 20 average 166lbs.). Since this is a more general hypothetical and not specifically about the OP’s gf, I used a BAC calculator twice (1- 25years, 140lbs, 4hours, 3glasses; 2- 25years, 150lbs, 4hours, 3glasses) and got a BAC quite under the legal limit – 0.031-0.035.
As someone who did my share of blow in the 80’s , treat it for what it is ~~sex~nothing wrong with that but true love ~~chances are not good
Bam. Sex on coke (or with someone who has) can be some pretty incredible sex. You know in your heart of hearts this won’t work in the long run. Just think of when the next opportunity you’ll have to bang a beautiful woman half your age. Prolly ain’t gonna be one. So bang her with every bit of primal lust you can summon. She’ll love it. And so will you. So cheers on finding yourself in this fairly rare situation. Just don’t fuck it up by mistaking it for what it’s not.
Ok, this changes my opinion substantially. Your ultimate goal will not happen, and you are on a one-way train to sucks-to-be-you with that goal. This girl is not a broken bird that you need to save, and if you treat her like one, I’ll bet solid money that she’ll dump your ass faster than you can say manic pixie dream girl.
Your views of why people use drugs are hopelessly naive. You can’t just lump every drug together and say anything at all about them. People use stimulants for different reasons than downers, and hallucinogens for different reasons still. The majority use drugs not because they are self-medicating, but because drugs are fun and they make you feel good.
Have you once ever asked her why she does it? The answer could be educational. What isn’t educational is assuming that she is self-medicating, or assuming that she should change her life just because you morally disapprove. I haven’t seen anything in this thread that shows that her drug use is bothering her … just you.
So you need to ask yourself a question. If she never quit, would you be ok with that, or is this a deal-breaker? It’s ok for it to be a deal-breaker. You are under no obligation to date anyone. If it isn’t a deal-breaker though, then you need to consider that the problem isn’t her drug use, but your contempt for her choices. Believe me when I say that contempt will kill a relationship faster than cheating will.
QFT
Well, I guess he does have a chance of learning that she blew a guy for a couple of grams or fucked him for an 8-ball, which would be both cheating and drug use…
Der hur hur. It’s funny because all women are whores!
Except it isn’t, and they are not.