Older fart checking in. I’d prefer to be notified by either carrier pigeon or dog sled.
As for the OP, sounds like he’s being honest.
Win some, lose some.
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See, I’m 45, and I find it absolutely astounding that people choose to break up with one another BY EMAIL! Holy shit! Anyone who would break the news to me by email would not be worthy of a second chance.
Maybe I’m just an old fart…
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Well, I thought that too but we are both 40!
From my perspective, it has something to do with being male and not wanting to see a woman cry - emotional cowardice?
We have a case in the news currently, where it appears that a gay guy faked his own death and burnt out his car to avoid telling his boyfriend that he wanted out…
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Chick here, but I’d keep it short and sweet. “I really enjoyed spending time with you as well. You’re a great guy, and I understand what you’re saying, and I wish you the best. If you’d ever like to give me a call, I’d be pleased to hear from you. Take care!”
Pleasant, no pressure, but leaves the door open.
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I’d go with something along these lines, but maybe even a little less needy (not that this one was needy at all, but I’d go even more neutral). Rather than “If you’d ever like to give me a call, I’d be pleased to hear from you,” I might reword it “Best of luck - if you want to catch up at some point down the road, you have my number.”
Guy here. Sounds to me like he met someone else. If I sent an email like that it would be because I wasn’t interested in that person. As in at all. Otherwise I would at least still be friends with them. I vote no email.
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Guy here. Sounds to me like he met someone else. If I sent an email like that it would be because I wasn’t interested in that person. As in at all. Otherwise I would at least still be friends with them. I vote no email.
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If you’ll note post #19 - too late.
Update:
He just sent me an email with a quiz in it… it was just to me, not to a whole group of people. It’s like he wants to maintain contact?
:smack:
I will learn to read someday. I apologize.
Might just be feeling guilty and wanting to ease the blow. I got a “moving too fast” breakup once and the guy emailed once or twice very shortly after the breakup before completely disappearing off the face of the earth.
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Guy here. Sounds to me like he met someone else. If I sent an email like that it would be because I wasn’t interested in that person. As in at all. Otherwise I would at least still be friends with them. I vote no email.
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I agree 100%—since an email has already been sent, (and reply received) I would edit Burrido’s comment to “I vote no more email.”
The original email you received could have been written by me, word for word. When I’ve had to sever ties of some sort I’ve often used this nice guy approach. Yet I’ve received variations of “I’ll wait for you” in return.
Some of the responses have been “Did you get the mags?” type responses. My perception (and I’m not saying this is going on with you) was this was busy work; email/voice/texts that kept the “relationship” on life support until it could be re-animated. They still felt like “I’ll wait for you.”
This doesn’t feel good, but I say treat like a band-aid you need to take off.
No more email.