Like the Kelly music video says, “YOU DONT TEXT MESSAGE BREAK UP!”
Want to break up with me? Fine. Can’t handle a relationship? Fine, I can handle hearing about it. What I DONT appreciate is getting a text message saying, “I can’t do this anymore. Thanks for the last three months” at 4 AM, then having to spend the next ten hours at work fuming about it before I got a chance to call and actually DISCUSS everything.
I think text message (and email) is an incredibly cowardly way to dump someone. If you’ve just dated them a few times its appropriate, but if you’re in an exclusive relationship I think they deserve a more personal conversation. Especially if you are trying to put the ‘Let’s just be friends’ rider on the back- my friends are mature enough to talk to me about serious things in person, anyone that wants to be my friend needs to be patient and mature enough to do the same.
Having just been dumped, I say that the good thing about this scenario is at least you have something to be really angry about. My sweetie dumped me (proper like, over the phone at least) but the way he laid it out there are no grounds for me to be mad at him.
If I’d been dumped over text at least I could be all “Oh no you didn’t! What a tool! Wait till I tell my friends what a jackass you are!” and I could feel better.
I almost broke up with my ex-boyfriend via e-mail, but I figured that was kind of weaselly, so I did the normal thing: intentionally grow distant until nobody could stand it anymore.
Small comfort at the moment to think that someone incapable of confronting difficult situations head-on is probably not someone you want to hitch your life to. But probably true.
Hell, even the [del]heartless bitch[/del] girl who broke my heart last year had the decency to do it to my face.*
Meanwhile, I got in trouble for breaking up with my last girlfriend by phone (she lived a few hours away) but even I drew the line at “Ur dmpd lol”.
*Though that was mainly because I turned up on her doorstep, meaning she had to get out of her bed - in which she had spent the night with someone else - to deal with it.
You turned into a bitch, forcing him to turn into a bastard, so therefore it could be as much his fault as your fault in your mind when the breakup finally officially occured.
As to the OP, my condolences !
Though, as others have pointed out, if she would do that, maybe it is best that its over…
I had a guy break up with me on my answering machine…that my 2 roomates and I all shared, so I wasn’t even the first to hear it.
Fortunately, I was going to break up with him anyway, so the three of us had a good laugh over it.
Funny thing is, I don’t think he was trying to be hurtful, he was just dumb as a bag of hair. Which is why I was going to dump him. You know, in person.
I broke up with one boyfriend over the phone, but I can be excused considering I was 900 miles away at the time and not slated for a visit back for some months.
And my roommate has broken up with girls via text message. At one point he had sex with a girl, then while on his way home from her place he texted her with “that was great but i dont think we should see each other anymore.” Really.
My stepdad, who had been married to my mom for 15 years, notified her via an email to her work account that his stuff would be gone from the house when she got home that day, and that he was filing for divorce.
She had not previously been aware that they had serious marital issues.
I told her, at least you have a good outrageous break-up story.
I don’t see what’s so objectionable about this. If you have several legitimate reasons for wanting to break up with someone but you know that you will have difficulty enumerating them or fear you’ll be talked out of such a decision by emotional pleas at the time you discuss it, I don’t see an e-mail as a bad way to start the conversation. I agree that one should make themselves available to an in-person or over the phone conversation over the following one to two days, but I really don’t see anything wrong with an e-mail breakup.
Yeah, I’ve experienced the email breakup. What a douchebag. After not being in contact for a week, I finally catch him online and practically beg him for a meeting so we could at least talk. He agrees, and then the very next day sends me an email breaking up with me. Ugh.
