Hey! Wake up out there, damn it!!! Why are you still dating that Medical Student or Doctor??? :mad: :mad: :mad: Is your relationship with s/he going nowhere? Think it might all magically change someday? Hey, hopeless romantics especially, it ain’t happenin’ dudes! If this is you, lay it on the line for Dr. Right because while you think your relationship has potential, your Dr. Right just sees you as something to feed his/her ego. Yes, it applies to both males and females in medicine (from comparing notes between family and friends). Give them a dose of their own medicince while you still can!
This seems even moreso true while they’re in Med School! Their classes and demands (if interning) have them at their weakest. Still, you’re just a crutch to lean on as you bend over to lick their wounds of Dr. Right’s bruised ego. How many times have you/will you continue to put yourself through this? Regardless of how much time you’ve invested in your relationship, if it is not progressing or you are suffering in your relationship with Dr. Right, you’ve got to get out while you can. Spare yourself a lot of heartache and tears. Trust me, it just gets worse and worse and worse!!!
One BIG bell-ringer of a warning is when s/he starts telling you how noble s/he is for what s/he is doing for people. How s/he loves to help people, but yet s/he’s treating you like crap. So, what does that make you? Chopped liver? You come first, damn it! And, don’t you ever, ever forget that in the dating game! Yes, in the eyes and heart of Dr. Right. You are a stepping stone on their road to success.
It’s funny how everyone assumes a doctor should have a good bedside manner, and yet how often you hear the complaint that it’s hardly found today. Well, there’s good reason for that…too many of these doctors’ hearts thrives on ego and self-worth, not compassion.
And, this goes for ALL fields of medicine. The majority are self-serving. One day, you will wake up to find them gone, often without a word, and you realize how Dr. Right cared no more for you than the rug on which they wipe their feet. To them, you are disposable as a latex glove. It hurts to cut bait, but it’s nicer when you’re finally in control of the relationship! Please share your experiences with me!
Misery loves company!
- Jinx, voice of experience (Damn her!)
P.S. Beyond heartache, you’ll learn to hate yourself…and it’s a long road back to rediscovering the happier person you once were. You’ll never fully recover.