So what does a guy say if he’s genuinely in really good health? Athletic?
Also, what do you say if you’re extremely slender, but have fairly large breasts for your size? Does curvy not cut it then?
Zsofia, so if I am understanding you correctly, full figured and BBW really means the same thing? Just one is more nicer or more sensitive then the other?
That guy is messed up! I think that move would freak me out. Though I guess I do look a little like her.
Wow, this is all news to me! I have always considered myself a BBW but according to these responses I should have been listing myself as full figured. You learn something new every day!
BTW, best of luck with the internet dating. It worked out really well for me so I highly recommend it to everyone else.
[hijack] People always say this, and it makes me wonder if I was doing something wrong. I tried it for eight months, and the only guy I communicated with who wasn’t a complete gibbering baboon, suddenly had insurmountable scheduling conflicts when I suggested meeting in person (and he wasn’t even relationship material – he smoked and had a kid – I just thought we could hang as friends). I finally gave up when one night I logged out, and then realized that I had never had fun with any of it, I had never looked forward to checking my messages, and at this point was actively dreading it.
I was completely upfront (if not in depth – there’s only so much a person can read before his eyes glaze over) about who I am and what I’m looking for. I expected I’d get some losers, but I couldn’t even wrangle a single face-to-face meeting out of it. WTF? [/hijack]
I’d have to say while you are a beautiful woman you are not a BBW but would fall in the catagory of a few extra pounds. If you were close to NJ I’d ask you out in a heartbeat
Here’s something to consider - in the internet world, as has been stated above, ‘BBW’ means something very specific, and can be a fetish for some men. There are many men who look specifically for very overweight women, and there are also women who maintain that weight specifically to attract those men. That’s all great for them, everyone fits a niche somewhere - but if you’re looking for someone to have an emotionally satisfying and possibly long-lasting relationship with, wouldn’t you rather not be judged on looks alone?
I am with those who say let your pictures and blurbs, and subsequent communications do the talking, if possible.
To answer your question, from your pictures I would say ‘full-figured’ (as a full-figured chica myself). You could always peruse some of the pics on dating sites created specially for BBWs and see what many people (especially men on the internet) think of when they hear the term. I wouldn’t say that was you.
Well, the thing is, not only does BBW have a very specific (almost fetish-related) meaning online, but most of these things show your options in a drop-down menu which are essentially organized from skinny to fat. So the site will kind of have its own heirarchy - you’re not just picking words, you’re picking how far down you are.
I’d say the solution is to always post a good photo, even if you think you don’t have any good photos of yourself.
ETA - I had really good success with the online dating thing (we’ve been together for three and a half years) but the “oh crap what do I put on my profile?” thing was always for everybody a problem, because when you search you sort by this stuff and you’d just miss people entirely if you were picking words wrong. At the time I was really, really skinny (high metabolism) but I’ll be damned ifI’m picking the “scrawny” option - I think I generally went with the “average” choice.
You are so NOT BBW.
You should say “a few extra pounds”. BBW implies extremely obese and it looks to me like you could wear normal sizes. Your face and arms don’t look fat, your legs, from what I can see, look normal size, no one would stare at you in the mall if you wore shorts or whisper about how you should not be eating if they saw you in a restaurant.
I wouldn’t even consider you “Full Figured” which to me implies almost BBW but retaining a more hourglass figure.
BrknButterfly, I have to agree with the crowd, you are definately no BBW. I would think Average or A Few Extra Pounds would work for you.
Also, if I was single and I lived close to you, I would totally date you.
I would say Average or Athletic. And, Freudian Slit, if you are asking because that is your body type, please post some pics of yourself. 
Thanks guys. I am thinking maybe when I get home I am going to chance my status on my profile.
If you change your status to what has been suggested, you’re not chancing anything.
From your pictures, I can’t really tell how big you are. If you don’t want guys thinking you’re heavier than you really are, try a picture of you in an outfit that is flattering (but not deceptive) of your body type.
Ya. mistype. Im at work and I’m muli-tasking. Scary.
See that is the thing, I’m not trying to hide anything. I am not only trying to be honest, but trying to make it very clear what I am. Who I am. To a point to making myself look bigger then what I am by putting BBW. I don’t want to mislead anyone to my body type.
As the others have stated, “BBW” does have a particular meaning. You’re not a BBW. Not even close.
I’d choose “a few extra pounds” for you, or maybe “curvy.” “Curvy” can mean almost anything not-skinny, I think. To me, "full-figured implies “probably bigger than ‘a few extra pounds’ with big tits.” It’s hard to tell what you are from those pics, other than “bigger than skinny” and “smaller than BBW.”
Anyway, I don’t suppose it matters that much which of the “not skinny” designations you choose. But definitely don’t put “BBW.”
And according to my experience, Zsofia’s exaggerating. A lot.
pbtth: You’re definitely not a BBW. Based on how you looked a few months ago, I’d call you “a few extra pounds” or maybe “full-figured.” But a BBW? No freakin’ way.
It looks like from your pictures, you’re tall & broad, but not very overweight. You might be “big” as in “taller & broader than most women” but I agree that BBW is used to imply that you’re extremely overweight.
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Thanks The reason I tended to go with BBW was when I put “full figured” on sites I ended up going on 2 or 3 dates where the guy was genuinely surprised at how heavy I was. I think the dating sites need to have better options because there are a lot of men out there who think that “curvy” or “full figured” means Carmen Electra, not Camryn Manheim. Even with pictures I think people have very different ideas of what the different phrases you can choose from mean to them.
I solved this problem by posting on Craigslist instead of a pay site. That is where I met my boyfriend. I liked Craigslist because the only thing you have to go on is the text so generally if they respond to your ad it is because they liked what you had to say and your description of yourself and you trade pictures after the first response. When I was on other sites where having a picture was all but a requirement I had men respond who hadn’t read my profile at all, they just thought I was hot, so it was always a dissapointing date when you show up and realize they don’t know anything about you at all except that they like your boobs.
Honestly, not really, although it might be one of those things that varies by location (and of course this was more than three years ago). I remember it being strikingly funny, like how every American from Donald Trump to the Tobacco Road people call themselves “middle class”. I asked Himself to confirm and he says “Oh yeah, you had to mentally add one or two categories to everybody on the fat thing.”
About curvy-since when is that a size? If I hear curvy, I’m thinking hourglass shaped, which could cover an entire range of all but the most extreme weights.