I had this weird thing happen to me today. I joined a couple different dating websites to get a feel for what is out there. POF and Match.com and I have been a member for a few months now. When I signed up I thought I was being pretty honest about the type of person I am and what I look like. I have nothing to hide and while I am actively trying to loose weight to become more healthy, I am not ashamed of who I am or what I look like. I am what I am. I am who I am.
So when it came to the question of body type, I put what I thought I was. “Big and Beautiful” or BBW. However you want to look or see it. There are plenty of choices to pick from. Curvy. Full Figured. A few extra pounds. Big and Beautiful. Slender. Athletic. Just to name a few. I don’t think I am this huge person, but I’m definitely not skinny.
Though over the course of being a member I looked at a few profiles of men and came across many that I knew through work or what not. A few in question are fairly on the bigger side, 100 pounds or more over weight, and they had labeled themselves, “A few pounds over weight”. I am not sure I necessarily agreed with that, but it isn’t my profile. Then today something odd (or what I think is odd) happened. I met (meaning through email) a guy through the POF website and we got talking. He had seen my pictures and told me that he was really attracted to BBW. After talking to him for a little bit he asked my weight (and where I don’t hide what I am, I told him) and then he said that he felt led on. That he doesn’t consider me BBW. He said that BBW is for woman (or men) 350 to 400 pounds or more.
So this got me thinking… maybe I am making myself to be bigger then what I am? Maybe I should be putting curvy or a few extra pounds like everyone else? I see my friends doing it and I thought they were just down playing what they may be. But then I “offend” this guy that is attracted to people I thought I was by not being one at all?
I’m confused. I am guessing that it is on the preference of the other person or what they consider to be “big” or over weight? Take a look at my pictures here if you want and you tell me if I am based on your own opinion.
My fear is that I am making myself out to be less attractive then what I am, weight wise? I’m okay with being BBW because that is what I have been putting on my profiles, trying to be honest. Though based on this guy’s reaction, I’m not sure if I put the right thing.
So the questions, because I think I just rambled.
Am I BBW?
What would you consider BBW?
Would you over sell or under sell yourself on a personal? (Meaning - You are over weight and not sure if you are a “few extra pounds” or “Curvy” so you go with the extreme so you don’t make yourself seem something you aren’t)
If you look at web personals, do you look at their “body status” and then confirm with it the pictures?
Feel free to add any other opinions you have on this as well.
ETA: I can’t find any “stand up” pictures for a full body view… but I think with the pictures I posted… it gives you the general idea of what I look like.