I would just like to point out that i am a NICE LOOKING 22 yr old latina female and i am upset that men do not look at me like they do with the skinny female. My question is Whats wrong with the big girl? We are just like other girls and we have more to share.
Why are men not attracted to BBW’s? 
Some are. If by big you mean fat I’m just not attracted. If you mean large that’s usually the body type I go for.
::Shrug:: People are attracted to what they are attracted to. There are plenty of men that are honestly attracted to big girls. They are definitely out there.
There are also men (hopefully, a lot of them) that are attracted to brains and a personality. This, I would hope, would be an important component to attraction.
I have heard some big girls say that it isn’t as if some men aren’t attracted to them, it’s just that some of these men are too ashamed to admit it to their friends. That, to me, is the ultimate in weasely behavior. If the guy is attracted to her, he damned well better be willing (no, make that proud) to be seen in public with the girl and show her picture to his friends. And he’d better be willing to weather the sometimes piggish remarks from the “fat bigots” who feel like anyone who is overweight shouldn’t be seen out in public.
But just not being attracted in the first place? So what? I’m not attracted to a variety of men, and I don’t feel ashamed of that. I am not obligated to be attracted to any particular type. Neither is anyone else.
what you need is a man like mine.
i have VERY large boobs. outsized-we-don’t-make-that-size-bra boobs.
but irishfella insists constantly “they’re not that big”.
he also forget’s i’m only 5 ft, and every time we meet up after a few weeks apart he does a whole “you’ve shrunk” routine.
start looking for men who are oblivious to your size and shape, but who know they like you.
Like was said, you have to find the ones who are willing to admit they are attracted to bigger girls and willing to be around you. It might take a bit though, I was always bigger and I never started finding guys who actually liked me instead of looking at my size.*
[sub]*By size I mean height, in fact I am 6’1 and though not fat I have a little extra padding. Most guys seem intimidated by a girl who is taller/bigger than them and can lift almost as much as they do without complaining. Luckily I’ve found some guys who are around my height, though a little shorter, who don’t mind that I can match them in some ways for lifting weight.[/sub]
So… how you all doin’? 
Just to point out that I like big women. Frustratingly, every poster here seems to be in another country or something…
My husband was always attracted to the thinner,petite girls, but his personality never clicked with them. After he met me, he was much more attracted to me then any of the other girls.
I’ve got a big body type like most of my family, but it was our personalities that always counted.
Hang in there and be proud of who you are, someone will come along.
Too dangerous when they’re angry. Big girls will break down your door and give you a hurtin’.
Yeah, right…
If a woman is thin when I meet her & then I learn to love her & she puts on a little weight from all my loving & wonderful cooking, then I still like them.
But most of the time (I didn’t say always) I don’t like big women because there is an implication to me that they don’t know how to take care of themselves. If they can’t take care of themselves, then they can’t take care of me.
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- Heck, sometimes they do that when they’re happy!
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- Heck, sometimes they do that when they’re happy!
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- I don’t like dating overweight people because I like doing mildly physical recreational activities that I have found overweight people simply can’t enjoy. -And I’m a few pounds over myself so it’s not like they gotta be Olympic gymnasts or anything, just reasonably un-fat.
- Haven’t had any time for all that the last few years though, with school+work+internship.
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The great mystery of social life. Why chicks only like the bad boys in leather jackets or blonde jocks in lettermen jackets, and why guys only like supermodels.
There are more guys out there that don’t care if a girl is a BBW, and surprisingly many that actually prefer a BBW, than is generally believed. One of my hobbies is people watching. Has been since I was a kid. I don’t like people, but I find them terribly fascinating. It’s why I go to bars and stuff.
Something I’ve noticed after many years, is that there is a bit of a stigma attached to big girls, not because they are big, but because of initial attitude. Not personality, attitude. From what I’ve seen over many years is that as a group, big girls, more than any other group, seem to have a tendency to lean to one of two extremes. One, the “I’m a fat loser and nobody will ever want me because I’m fat so I’ll just slump in my chair and feel sorry for myself” attitude, which is not attractive at all. And two, the other end, which is overcompensation, the “So what if I’m big, I’m a great person so I’m going to run my mouth very loudly so that everyone within earshot will hear my incredible wit, intelligence, and incredible personality to draw attention from my body”… also, very unattractive.
It’s the girl who is self confident, very secure with herself, and genuinely likes herself and has a “damn the world, I like myself” attitude with nothing to prove that is attractive. I tend to like girls who are in the middle, but have approached women of both ends of the spectrum in the past, several of them large women. All because of attitude. People can have the greatest personality in the world, but people have to meet you to see the personality. People often think that personality and attitude are the same think. They aren’t. Attitude is the bait, personality is the hook.
If your outward attitude sucks, your personality, wit, intelligence, and every other quality doesn’t matter, unless you get real lucky, whether you are a posterboard model or the opposite. The closest male equivalent of a big girl is the skinny, coke bottle wearing geek with a pocket protector. But male geeks with the right attitude get more chicks than the quarterback.
If you build it, they will come.
It’s all about “IT”. If you have “IT”, it doesn’t matter who are what you are, you will get what you are looking for in a mate.
Even though I am on the smaller end of the big-girls (what a mouthful!), I’m going to have to agree with what Turbo Dog said. The personality types tend to go to two extremes–either the self-pity mode or the extreme extravert mode, neither of which is very appealing.
However–and I do say however–big girls are not the only ones who suffer from these extremes. Other chicks do, too–it just happens more often in that subset because of the way they get treated.
I was in the former (self-pity) group for years. Then, suddenly, I realized that A.) I was occaisionally getting checked out, B.) I could be attractive, and C.) if anyone else had a problem, tough titties. I’m still an intravert, but I can (sometimes) approach people. It’s a nice way to live.
Anyway…if you want to find a subset of guys who’ll appreciate you without stigma, try gamer guys. Seriously. They might be a little…overt…but if you show 'em you’re not gonna take any piggishness (or just ignore them), you can find some genuinely nice ones. Like my boyfriend.
[sub]You can’t have my boyfriend…[/sub] 
I contend that there is absolutely nothing whatsoever wrong with dating big girls! Where our society got the idea that fat=unattractive, I don’t know. I, for one, vastly prefer big girls over skinny ones. Believe me, there are guys like us out there admiring the more prominent features of you big woman (now if I could just fine one of my own).
Eh, having been quite thin at one time, and now not being so, I must say I got way more attention when I was un-fat. It’s probably more to do with the confidence I had in myself. I’m sure it was more attractive to most men.
It’s also very easy to (I’m not saying OP is doing this) blame everything on one’s weight. (i.e. I didn’t get into that sorority because I’m too fat, If I wasn’t fat, he’d like me, etc). It can be a pretty sick cycle if you let yourself fall into it.
Oh yah, those gamer guys are great. Though you have to find the right ones. I RP a lot in several Live games with various people (some cross over all the games, others just go to one or two) and I have dated the odd guy that I’ve met there. Unfortunately I managed to pick the wrong ones.
[Voice of Experience] TIP: Do not date the ones that show up for one or two games and hardly any other time. They can’t get things straight and cannot commit to doing one thing (even playing a game once a month continuously), which means they cannot commit to a relationship longer than a couple of weeks. [/Voice of Experience]
Plus with the girl to guy ratio being in a girl’s favor, well you just have more options for choice and you already have one point of similar interests. Role playing!
Okay, I’ll end my total hijack now.
If by “big” you mean fat, count me out. While obesity can be caused by genetics, most often it is a result of unhealthy personal habits. I don’t like unhealthy personal habits.
If by “big” you mean tall and/or large-framed, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.
P.S. What is BBW?
BBW=Big, Beautiful Women.
It’s taken four years, but my husband has finally convinced me that yes, he is honestly very attracted to me, thinks I’m beautiful and sexy, and can’t get enough of my body. I guess I just couldn’t believe it because all my life my family and even doctor told me I’d never find myself a man if I didn’t lose weight. After hearing that lecture nearly daily for 15 years, I just couldn’t accept that any man would ever find me attractive. I just thought my husband wanted me because I put out pretty easily for him when we were dating (which speaks volumes about my self-esteem at the time.)
So, uh, I guess the point of this post is that despite what society may say, being big or fat doesn’t mean you have to be unattractive. If in all my life only one man finds me attractive, that’s enough, because I married him.
Good point. That’s why I ended up with the ST. (No, really; I wasn’t trying; I didn’t even know what an ST was. But now we’re together. It’s very amusing. God, I love him. I just had to say that).
Back to the OP…
…what I should’ve said before and didn’t is that, as far as big girls versus little girls (er…thin chickies, not children…), it’s all a matter of taste. For some, bigger is better; for others, it’s not so. Also, for some, personality is more important and can compensate for any look–for others, it’s not.
And, dammit, there is nothing wrong with anyone’s personal taste.
Believe me, though, bonita; BBW-lovin’ guys are out there.
Any man, though, who would be embarassed of his date is not dating material. In fact, I volunteer to give him a sound kick in the balls, on behalf of all womankind (size non-relevant).
Being a BBW myself, I must say that your comment here hurt a bit. For my size (I’m a big lass) I am very active. I love SCUBA diving, cross-country skiing, biking, hiking, and weight lifting (come on I can leg press 750# for cripes sake!!) and much much more. Just because a woman (or fella) is large does NOT mean they can’t get out there and do things. It may take a bit of encouragement and reassurance but why not get busy??
Don’t worry bonita supreme, there are lots of fellas out there that enjoy a larger woman. Just gotta know where to look… I found mine at Nottingham Castle in England !!!
I’m stealing this for a sig, Turbo Dog:
I don’t like people, but I find them terribly fascinating.