Now if only I would remember to check the “Show Signature” box…
%&#*%&%!!! That’s twice!
We now resume our originally scheduled topic…
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Well, I like big girls too… and petite girls… and tall girls…
I’m mainly interested in someone who’s fun and can hold a reasonably intelligent conversation. The packaging is only a secondary benifit.
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I watch Oprah & Dr Phil (Yeah, so thats all thats captioned at that hour worth watching) & often they have large women on the show talking about why they are large. One answer seems to be that they are that way as a defense mechanism in order to protect themselves from having relationships or being attractive to men.Should it be a mystery that men are not attracted to them?
I’m really sick of this idea.
Why can’t a woman just want sex?
Why can’t a woman be sexually aggressive?
And if she is its just putting out,or giving in.
I’d like to think women can have it because they want it,not because shes just capitulating.
Sorry for the hijack:D
I don’t care what the Bob Normals like,
I LIKE big girls, they just look prettier to me
than do the scrawny ones.
I am not sure why I do, they are just more
attractive to me.
No offense to the skinnies, I just prefer
the big girls.
Oh, no, no no, that’s not what I meant at all. I wanted sex, and I wasn’t ashamed of that at all. I mean, he put out just as easily as I did. All I meant was that I figured thta’s why he wanted me…because i was essentially sex on tap…he was conditioned to “get excited” when he was with me, not because he wanted me but because he wanted sex.
That’s all.
ARGH!!!
Just because you are a woman doesn’t mean that a man HAS to be attracted to you. Just like you are not attracted to every man that walks by you.
There are men out there who like big woman. How do I know? Because I have one. My boyfriend loves me for who I am. I have gained/lost and gained weight during the 7 years we’ve known each other. When was the time he decided to make his move on me? When I was @ my highest weight. Don’t give up. Don’t put up with other peoples rude comments. AND most of all. EARN SOME SELF ESTEEM!!
Guys love that. Nothing turns a guy off more than a girl who pities herself.
I understand that sometimes it hurts when a guy will pass you up for a skinny girl, but you learn to let go.
I am 22 year old Hispanic girl who’s dating a 24 year old White guy who is…get this…90 lbs lighter than me. He is a great guy and tries to protect me from rude comments. Does he care about my weight? No. How do I know? I’ve asked him plenty of times. …and no he’s not lying.
BTW. **Bonita Supreme ** My boyfriend says you are beautiful for who you are.
Whaddaya talking about!?! That Spanish girl in class is huge and I think she’s the best looking thing I’ve seen all year. Though she does have a BF…
I think it’s about the girl herself (for me anyhoo). If I like, I like. If I don’t like the look of her, she could have the build of Christy Turlington and I don’t give a rat’s ass.
Just my 2 cents. YMMV.
(Also, confidence helps. It makes you look more cool.)
Whats wrong with losing some weight?
Thats if you want to attract a wider range of men.
If you’re happy the way you are (and the more power to you) then you’ll have to settle for the fact that men who find BBW attractive are in the minority. And being 22, men in your age range tend to be even less likely inclined.
And the majority of men aren’t only attracted to “skinny girls”, they’re just not, quite frankly, attracted to obese women.
And what are your standards? Would you date a fat man? I see a double standard alot of times with BBW, they won’t date fat men but get upset when skinny men won’t date them.
Bonita Supreme, I am overweight. I have been for most of my life. However, I have never lacked for male companionship or dates because of it. You are beautiful for what is inside as well as what is outside.
I find that this situation is often exasperated by BBW wearing really baggy clothing to try and hide their bodies, or giving up entirely by wearing sweat pants and not fixing their hair or wearing makeup*. IMO, they come off as looking sloppy.
If a woman is truly OK with her body image, why not fix herself up a bit and try to dress nicer?
** Many women don’t need any makeup at all. Most do.*
Eleusis has a good point. Since I’ve gained weight, I’ve tended to hide myself more and more (although I’ve never cared to wear revealing clothes). But you know, now I’ve got knockers to write home about, my husband loves it when I occasionally wear something close-fitting.
One of my friends (who is not fat, or at least I don’t consider her so) is madly in love with a rather rotund fellow. He’s cute, though.
And, guys like John Goodman (everyone always mentions him when it comes to fat guys), and that actor Oliver Platt (from 1993’s “Three Musketeers”) is cute, at least in some of the things I’ve seen him in. There are plenty of cute big guys. They just have to carry it well. Just like big women do.
BBWs (and I’m one of them, just so you know) should try to dress well for their size—no hideous polyester, no incredibly unflattering garments. Same with guys. If I see a guy who is dressed with a too-tight too-short shirt and his big ol’ pot belly is hanging out and you can see his hairy flesh…well, that ain’t attractive. But wearing clothing of the proper size and length—well, the same guy can look damned attractive.
Lazlo glad you enjoy one my outlooks on life:)
I’ll also second what Eleusis said. There isn’t much that is a bigger turn off than a big girl wearing sweatpants and an oversized T-shirt to a bar or in a restaurant. It just screams out “I’m big so I’ll just wear a potato sack cuz I don’t look good in anything”.
Scrawny? SCRAWNY?!?!
Just because a woman isn’t obese doesn’t automatically make her scrawny. What about slim and athletic?
I agree with this one. Being a bigger woman I see a lot of women (who are even bigger than I am) who are extremely picky. Personally it doesn’t matter too much to me, a lot of it is does this guy attract me and most of the time the reasons for no are because he is a jerk.
I will admit that I do not want to date someone who is obese, but I don’t really care about a few extra pounds. Most guys I’ve been with have been slightly overweight and some of the guys I have been attracted to are quite bulky, but most of it is attitude.
And clothing does help, at least make an effort to find flattering clothes. I personally hate shopping, but when I do shop no matter how I hate it I manage to find places that have decent clothes that work for me. I’ve found since I stopped wearing sweats and t-shirts all the time I’ve managed to catch the eye of more men. You don’t need to let it all hang out, but you don’t have to wear a gunny sack either!
Ginger You ain’t fat! I’ve met you so I can say this for sure.
I’ve always been attracted to men bigger than me. My husband is bigger than me.
For me, it’s more about a woman’s proportions than her size. I see plenty of women that are what many guys would call big, but I find them attractive because everything’s in the right place, so to speak. And if they present themselves with confidence and style, then they’re all the more attractive.
PaulYeah
With obesity hitting epidemic proportions in our society this is a question that will pop-up more and more.
To me, big but athletic can be beautiful but just plain fat is not. That’s just me. Other men have other ideas. To each his own.
I know how hard it can be to be stuck in the “unattractive” group. I’m not overweight, but I am short which is much more of a factor for male desirability than waistline is. The fact is that most women look at guys my size and immediately write us off. Most, but not all. I’m married to a terrific woman who’s not hung up on having a big guy.
So that’s what big girls will have to do. Look for the exceptions to the rule. This may not be easy or fun, but you are not going to change people’s preferences.
If loving you is wrong…
I don’t want to be light.